On this episode: Zak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Jamilah Lemieux help a listener who is fed up. Her husband works a lot and when he is around he’s only ‘fun dad.’ Upon experiencing burnout, the letter writer asked her husband to pitch in more—to which he suggested ‘hire a nanny.’ Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak have suggestions for rebalancing the relationship. They also share recommendations and then, on Slate Plus, they discuss the parenting resolutions they are not going to keep this year.  
 Recommendations:  Zak: Wonka Jamilah: Wonka and The Color Purple Elizabeth: TypeLit.io 
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I Refuse to Replace My Husband With a Nanny

Jamilah Lemieux, Zak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Lucy Lopez share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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On this episode: Zak, Lucy, and Elizabeth help a member of our Slate Parenting Facebook group who’s struggling to keep her head above water. There’s always another deadline, appointment, and thing to do… and when it all piles up, it’s hard to feel like you can dig yourself out. We’ll have some concrete advice for how to move in the right direction — and more importantly, how to feel better. 
 We also dole out a round of recommendations — and, for our Slate Plus listeners, we’re talking about keeping teeth and making jewelry, and whether it’s actually as weird as it sounds. 
 Lucy recommends: Makeup/Skincare shopping with your 12 yr old Elizabeth recommends: Silicone Nesting Scoops  Zak recommends: Babes 
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 Podcast produced by Maura Currie.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I Have Five Kids and Can’t Keep My Sh*t Together

On this episode: Lucy sits down with researcher and friend of the show Tova Walsh to talk about her work on dads who experience postpartum depression. Paternal mental health is a topic we don’t talk about nearly enough, so we wanted to give you some advice — and some resources to learn more and get help.  
 Tova wants to share the following:
A conversation she hosted about understanding fathers’ mental health
Help for dads via Postpartum Support International
A training on paternal perinatal mental health, geared toward care providers
And a piece of her research on including fathers in perinatal mental health practice.

 
 Lucy, Zak and Elizabeth will also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of Triumphs & Fails — including ROLY-POLIES. 
 Listeners, we want your advice – and your questions – about how to prevent the dreaded summer backslide. You know where to find us (and if you don’t, keep reading).  
 Join us on Facebook and email us at careandfeedingpod@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318. 
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 Podcast produced by Maura Currie.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dads Can Suffer From Postpartum Depression, Too

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a listener question about whether it’s really necessary to lug around strollers and car seats during an international trip. The answer is complicated, but among other tips, we do recommend the following:
The City Mini stroller
The gb Pockit+ stroller line
The Doona car seat/stroller system
The Mifold compact booster seat
The CARES harness for plane seats

 We also dole out a round of regular recommendations and share some stuff that listeners have been loving – and for our Slate Plus listeners, we’ll imagine our own personal parenting training montages (shoutout to listener Aili and her son Silas).   
 Jamilah recommends: A hotel staycation (but voluntary) Elizabeth recommends: Magic Puzzle Company Puzzles  Zak recommends: Taki 
 Join us on Facebook and email us at careandfeedingpod@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318. 
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 Podcast produced by Maura Currie.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do We Need a Stroller for International Travel?

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak and Elizabeth help a listener who, for a few reasons, is at the end of her rope with a friend of her daughter’s. The friend is sweet… she’s just LOUD, to the point that the listener doesn’t want to drive the girls around anymore. Where does she go from here? 
 We’ll also debrief on our week in parenting with a round of Triumphs & Fails — including a dip in the creek. 
 Listeners, we want your advice – and your questions – about how to prevent the dreaded summer backslide. You know where to find us (and if you don’t, keep reading).  
 Join us on Facebook and email us at careandfeedingpod@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318. 
 If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus to help support our work. 
 Podcast produced by Maura Currie.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My Daughter’s Friend Is Just So Loud

On this episode: Zak sits down with Jessica Calarco, whose new book – Holding It Together – is out tomorrow. The two walk through the ways in which women, and especially mothers, replace a social safety net in the United States… and, more importantly, why it doesn’t have to be this way. 
 We also dole out a round of recommendations – and for our Slate Plus listeners, we continue Zak and Jessica’s conversation and ask Jamilah and Elizabeth what they think their unpaid labor is holding together.  
 Elizabeth recommends: Brain Inflamed Zak recommends: Play your favorite music videos for your kids. Like this.  Jamilah recommends: If (in theaters now!) 
 Join us on Facebook and email us at careandfeedingpod@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318. 
 If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus to help support our work. 
 Podcast produced by Maura Currie.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I Refuse to Replace My Husband With a Nanny

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