By Dave Cooke
A podcast for parents dealing with addiction in their families.
What happens when you take the time to listen to the perspective of someone else, without judgement, criticism, or condemnation? What happens when they feel heard and understood? It changes everything. Today's podcast looks at the listening, in a parenting...
Today's "Inside the 100Pedals Blog" podcast focused on this statement, "Decisions made from a place of fear are often emotional reactions to complicated situations which rarely lead to the outcomes we desire as logic and reason have been minimized by...
From "Inside the 100Pedals blog" Podcast. Life rarely goes according to plan.When it doesn't, all is not lost. The same is true of a parent's story. Even if, even though, addiction may have radically changed everything, there is still an...
What happens when a parent feels their child has fallen far enough? What happens when they think their child must have found their bottom? What if there is no such thing as a bottom? What happens when we rescue them...
When everything is not okay, many people hide their struggle from others fearing judgement, or feeling shame or guilt. Today's "inside the 100Pedals Blog" podcast explores the normalcy of things not being okay and the opportunities which come with them. ...
Today's "Inside the 100Pedals Blog" podcast focuses on a different approach for parents in response to a child's disconcerting behaviors, and encourages as shift from confrontational activities to one of love and understanding. Blog reference: http://www.100pedals.com/trusting-your-love-is-enough/
Today's "Inside the Blog" podcast focuses on how parental micro- monitoring adversely impacts a child's recovery and the best steps for avoid this practice. Blog reference: http://www.100pedals.com/getting-into-your-childs-business-only-creates-confusion/
When it comes to a child's addiction, a parent's essential first-step embracing their personal recovery path. Committing to a path of personal development, education, and healthy support, is fundamentally the most important recovery related activity any parent can engage in....
Exploring how the words we choose can bring healing to a complicated, challenging situation or issue. Referenced blog: http://www.100pedals.com/healing-conversations/
Complicated problems are not easily solved at the drive-thru window. People trust random strangers with their most personal, intense problems. It makes decision making easier, but does it result in the best response? Today's podcast explores this issue in greater...
Examining parenting, addiction, recovery and what you need to know: Why safety in the known is always easier than exploring the unknown. And, what these behaviors prevent. Subscribe on I-tunes here
Parents have a tendency to get heavily involved in a child's recovery. Their involvement has productive limitations. Today's podcast examines healthy, productive parent engagement in relationship to a child's recovery. Blog reference: http://www.100pedals.com/recovery-management/
As we become dependent upon the barriers created by our ego to protect us, it becomes difficult to step out from behind the wall to receive the healing we need most. Today we are discussing how to move past these...
Healing broken relationships require someone step up and to authentically, vulnerably demonstrate their commitment to begin the process. In addiction driven relationships, parents have a great opportunity to change lives,including their own, through authentic love and commitment. This podcast explores...
Bringing transformed, healthy responses and behaviors into the chaos of a child's addiction provides a conduit for love and healing. Today's blog explores in greater detail, three critical behaviors parents and loved ones are encouraged to develop and engage in....
Behaviors and interactions can become habit forming, including our responses to external triggers. Today's podcast focuses on productive ways to interrupt these patterns and habits. Blog reference: http://www.100pedals.com/interrupting-the-patterns-of-response/
Examining the sources of our controlling behaviors and how to shift away from them at critical times. When things start to go in the "wrong direction" our desire to step in and take control increases. Unfortunately, this behavior can often...
Addiction and recovery, healing and healthy outcomes are all the byproduct of change and transformation. Today's conversation focuses on the responsibilities of loved ones to embrace change and transformation in their personal recovery activities. Reference blog: Change is a...
A lesson learned this week: My involvement in my son's recovery isn't always productive or healthy for either one of us. Today's conversation: Discovering how to stay detached and at peace. Blog Reference: Facilitating a healthy separation
The narrative around my son's addiction has changed significantly. Yet, I find myself struggling to trust what I am being told and what I am experiencing. Today's conversation focuses on how to shift my energy away from fear, doubt and...
When the wind is in your face and going in difficult, push hard; when it is at your back and you are going downhill, push harder. Reflections on maintaining productive habits even when it seems impossible to do so. Blog...
Reflecting on what happens when we lose trust and focusing our energies on regaining it. Blog reference: http://www.100pedals.com/rebuilding-and-redirecting-lost-trust/
Reflecting on the realities that Addiction corrupts the mind, resulting in choices which rarely, if ever, make sense. 100Pedals blog: You can't make sense out of nonsense
When chasing the expectations in outcomes get in the way of living with confident clarity to purpose. How these behaviors rob people of joy and peace in their life.
A closer look inside an earlier blog "I have been there often, too often" and what it means to be in a community where you are safe, loved, protected; and, have the ability to authentically share your struggles and fears.
What if it was possible to turn your Hope into a result you could live with? Today's podcast: Finding a different way and celebrating the result.
I was afraid of failing as a parent. I was determined not to fail as a parent. Everything I did with my children growing up was determined by how I defined my measurable success as a parent. Problem is, I...
What if you could trust in the outcome? What if it was possible to be at peace with the process? What if letting go of our fears were not as hard as we make it to be? Today's podcast delves...
When you take control of your life. When you maintain your focus. When you trust in doing what you know you need to do. Your life will change. More incredibly, so will the behaviors of others as they adjust to...
Everyone has that moment when... They realize they are at a fork in the road They discover they are not in a healthy place They know they need to do something, or else In a blog earlier this week, I...
What would it look like if you could find a moment to just relax and reconnect with your inner self? How would it feel to have time every single day to simply get away from the chaos? What impact would...
These are reflections from the May 30 Blog, "Helping them find a way home." “Home is where you go to find solace from the ever-changing chaos, to find love within the confines of a heartless world, and to be reminded...
What if there is an opportunity to learn from our children's hurtful outbursts ? What if our children don't know how to share their most painful experiences? What if all they need is a safe place to open up about...
When faced with the crisis of addiction in the family, many parents attempt to quickly and easily fix the problem without really understanding the deeper addiction related issues. Conditioned to believe that there has to be a simple answer to...
As parents of a child with an addiction, we are often tasked with making incredibly difficult and challenging choices. It can be quite a battle to decipher the better decisions from the bad ones. And, it is often difficult to...
“No matter how dark the present appears, I choose to live for the promise of the future...” This was the first quote I celebrated as I completed my first 100Pedals bike ride on January 1, 2011. It has been six...
Nothing disrupts or interrupts peace or joy more than adversity. Life would be so much simpler and easier if we just didn’t have to deal with conflict. In the world of a parent of child with substance abuse issues, the...
In the holiday season, the relationship tensions that exist in families are often exacerbated. Even in the best of families, there are often relationship issues present between various family members. A family impacted by addiction are no exception. In fact,...
Most family members are terrified about the response when neighbors, or the people at church, work, or school find out that their loved one is addicted to drugs. The stigma of drug addiction and the fear of the judgment that...
When it comes to a loved one’s addiction, every member of the family responds to it differently. Moms and dads are no exception. In an earlier podcast, I reflected on why it is critically important for parents to work...
It all began with a phone call informing me my son was in jail. What unfolded from that call was a story of homelessness, legal troubles, and a heroin addiction. This is where my addiction journey began. In the early...
One of the greatest conflicts that arise as a result of addiction in the family is the impact this has on the parents’ relationship. Moms and Dads respond to the situation and look at the issue from two different perspectives....
Every parent dealing with the choices and behaviors of child with an addiction struggles with developing and honoring boundaries. In reality, most parents struggle with clearly defined boundaries and consequences, in general. Teaching our children and ourselves this lesson is...
We have all heard the saying “your gut is always right.” Despite our affirmative experiences with this truth, we have all had that defining moment where we wish we trusted our gut instincts. It is hard for parents to believe...
This podcast segment is a response to a question sent regarding the boundaries a parent set for her addicted son. The boundaries didn't change anything and now the parent is struggling to be comfortable with the decision and the undesired...
The question was asked, "how do you talk to your addicted child without pushing them over the edge?" The answer is easier than you may realize, executing it may take some time and effort. We want so badly to steer...
The last scheduled speaking stop on the Cycling for Recovery Mission was in Somerset, PA on Sunday, September 25. With nearly 35 people attending this event at St. Francis in the Fields Church, I shared the story of my journey...
Dave Cooke made a presentation in Godfrey, IL on Tuesday, September 6 at the United Methodist Church. Dave shared the story of his journey with his youngest son's heroin addiction and his testimony in how he has found peace and...
Today's guest, Midwestern Mama, went searching on the internet to find the answers for dealing with her son's addiction. Frustrated by her inability to find cohesive information for simplest of searches, she knew she would need to build a better...
How do our belief systems affect our behaviors and responses to a child’s addiction? Do you want to learn how to better navigate the obstacles that get in our way? Have you ever struggled to find your way to a better, more...
