Staying together forever can feel like an impossible slog — just Ask Polly, aka advice columnist Heather Havrilesky. She helps us troubleshoot marital regret, absent sex drives and self-preservation and discusses her new memoir, Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage.
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Are diaries the ultimate form of authenticity? How do our stories shift when we're journaling for no one to see? On Theme co-hosts Yves Jeffcoat and Katie Mitchell read into Black women's diaries for the personal reflections, everyday details and emotional nuance that goes unseen elsewhere. Highlights include: social media vs. journal authenticity, Harlem Renaissance tea, Octavia Butler's bills, and Whose Diary Do You WISH You Could Read? 

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Deary Diary, pt. 2: Tea and History

What do 400 years-worth of women's published diaries tell us about the kinds of secrets and feelings we keep to ourselves? From a 16th-century spiritualist to the diaries of Anne Frank and Ma Yan, writer Sarah Gristwood reveals the everyday histories they document, the age-old frustrations they share and why she's a proponent of hanging onto your old journals. (Yes, even the embarrassing ones!) Highlights include: writing in code, pie for dinner, peach lingerie and notes to future selves.
Sarah's new anthology is Secret Voices: A Year of Women's Diaries.

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Dear Diary, pt 1: Secrets Women Keep

How did Bumble get its (celibacy-themed) rebrand so wrong? What does it tell us about general dating app burnout? Cristen revises the brand's millennial girlboss origin story, its promise of female empowerment and Whitney Wolfe Herd's path to self-made billionaire. Highlights include: AI dating coaches, a sketchy Russian billionaire, corporate apologies, a Bumble-themed nunnery and costly roses on Hinge.
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The Bumble Fumble

Imagine having to host the Pope and the Chinese President. On the same day. Plus, a whole press corps and socialite circle is watching and waiting to blame you for anything that goes wrong. That’s what Deesha Dyer walked into when she was promoted to White House Social Secretary for the Obama administration in 2015. But even more than her high-stakes responsibilities, Deesha had to reckon with her own imposterism in a system setting her up to fail.
Highlights include: a Condom Queen, 90s hip-hop, unpaid interning, handbag microaggressions and one infamous Tiffany's box.
Deesha's new memoir is Undiplomatic: How My Attitude Created the Best Kind of Attitude. 

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Hostess with the Mostest

NeW ePiSoDeS returning next week, unladies! In the meantime . . . What happens when women in long-term relationships with straight men realize they're bi, and why are they less likely to come out? Writer and Culture Club host Maggie Zhou shares her own reckoning with the "Bittersweet Privilege of Straight-Passing in Queer Communities," queer imposterism and bisexual erasure. Maggie and Cristen also offer advice to two married unladies feeling stuck in the bisexual closet. (Originally aired May 25, 2023. )

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