Ep 207: Beyond Control: Embracing Personal Growth in Relationships

This episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is part of a series where we answer questions submitted by listeners. A listener writes in expressing concern about her boyfriend checking out other women in public, despite repeatedly expressing her discomfort to him. We dive into relationship dynamics, and how sometimes fixating on others’ behavior can be a distraction from your own personal growth. 

Some Takeaways from this Episode:

✨Self-Focus Over Partner-Surveillance: When you notice yourself becoming focused on a partner’s behaviors it’s a clear sign that your energy should be redirected inward and focus on personal development ✨ Relationships as a Platform for Growth: Relationships should be a catalyst for personal development, rather than a means to seek external validation ✨Acceptance of Who Your Partner Is: Attempting to change fundamental aspects of a partner’s personality or habits, especially if they existed prior to the relationship, is futile  ✨Fallacy of Control: Relationships dynamics should be safe for each person to be their full authentic self, with a focus on mutual growth and understanding instead of control