In this unplanned conversation, Amanda speaks up for everyone who’s been labeled a “Control Freak” – anyone who feels like they have to hold up the entire sky for their families or businesses – when what they really want is to feel supported and safe. Amanda shares vulnerably about: how she became an overfunctioner, the blessings and curses of being one, and the practical strategies she’s using to let go – and what her partner is doing to make her feel like she can finally try to relax.  

If this episode resonates, go back and listen to OVERWHELM: Is our exhaustion a sign that we’re CareTicking time bombs?
 
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210. Calling All Control Freaks: How to Stop Overfunctioning

Life is freaking hard. We are all doing hard things every single day – things like loving and losing; caring for children and parents; forging and ending friendships; battling addiction, illness, and loneliness; struggling in our jobs, our marriages, and our divorces; setting boundaries; and fighting for equality, purpose, freedom, joy, and peace.
On We Can Do Hard Things, Glennon Doyle, author of UNTAMED; her wife Abby Wambach; and her sister Amanda Doyle do the only thing they’ve found that has ever made life easier: Drop the fake and talk honestly about the hard things including sex, gender, parenting, blended families, bodies, anxiety, addiction, justice, boundaries, fun, quitting, overwhelm . . . all of it.
We laugh and cry and help each other carry the hard so we can all live a little bit lighter and braver, free-er, less alone.

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315. Grief: How to Move Through Losing a Friend with Sloane Crosley

CW: Discussion of suicide 

Abby and Glennon welcome New York Times bestselling author Sloane Crosley. Sloane shares her experience of losing her dear friend to suicide and the grief journey she went on in the aftermath. The conversation explores handling loss, the nuances of friendship, humor in the face of sorrow, and living in the present moment.

Discover: 
-Whether the desire to give meaning to a death helps or hurts the grieving process;
-What NOT to say after someone dies by suicide and what might help; 
-The place of humor in grief: when it’s useful and when it’s a coverup; and
-The reason you have every right to deeply grieve a friend and the pain of grief hierarchies. 

About Sloane: 
Sloane Crosley is the New York Times bestselling author of the new memoir Grief Is for People; the novels Cult Classic and The Clasp; and three essay collections: Look Alive Out There, I Was Told There’d Be Cake, and How Did You Get This Number. She lives in New York City.
 
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Grief: How to Move Through Losing a Friend with Sloane Crosley

314. Jealousy: Glennon & Abby Share It All 

Glennon and Abby candidly discuss their personal experiences with jealousy. They explore how jealousy manifests, its implications on their connection, and the steps they've taken toward understanding and addressing it.

Discover:
-Abby and Glennon’s jealousy origin stories;
-Abby’s confession to Glennon about her jealousy;
-Why self trust might be the key to overcoming jealousy; and
-How Glennon and Abby protect each other’s hearts AND wounds in their relationship.

 
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Jealousy: Glennon & Abby Share It All

313. How to Turn a Mistake into Magic with Suleika Jaouad

Glennon speaks one-on-one with the brilliant Suleika Jaouad about Suleika's journey through the messy middle – living well in a body that does not feel well, and creating a life of beautiful defiance.

Discover: 


Why believing we should “Live everyday like our last” is unhelpful;

Why the unproductive periods of life are *actually* where you do the most work;

The specific, best ways to really show up for friends who are in the messy middle; 

How to alchemize your pain into creativity; and

The lessons we can all learn from Jellyfish  


Suleika Jaouad is the author of the instant New York Times bestselling memoir, Between Two Kingdoms. She wrote the Emmy Award-winning New York Times column “Life, Interrupted,” and her reporting and essays have been featured in the New York Times Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and NPR, among others. A highly sought-after speaker, her TED Talk – “What Almost Dying Taught Me About Living” – has nearly five million views. She is also the creator of The Isolation Journals, a community creativity project founded during the pandemic to help others convert isolation into artistic solitude.

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How to Turn a Mistake into Magic with Suleika Jaouad

312. Potholes & Productive Conflict in Relationships with Abby & Glennon

Abby and Glennon answer ALL of your relationship questions. We get into juicy topics like how to fight better, the balance of individuation and connection in relationships, and how to take ownership of your own feelings vs. judging your partner’s behaviors. 

Discover: 
-What introverts and extroverts have to learn from each other and how they can be in a relationship effectively;
-Abby and Glennon’s unbelievable golf cart fight and tips on how to have more productive conflicts; 
-How to let go of the need to control someone else; and
-What Abby means when she says, “woof.”
 
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Potholes & Productive Conflict in Relationships with Abby & Glennon

311. Post Diagnosis: Glennon & Abby Reflect and Decide What Needs to Change 

Glennon and Abby reflect on the dynamics of love, control, and support in relationships in the wake of Amanda’s diagnosis. 

Discover: 
-The simple sentence that Tish said to Glennon that shattered her reality;
-Glennon’s creative way of reading books & what it has to do with controlling others; and
-Why Glennon didn’t speak for a week after finding out sister’s diagnosis & what it felt like inside.
 
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210. Calling All Control Freaks: How to Stop Overfunctioning

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