Coach Steph joins me today to discuss the most common setbacks women experience when working on cutting back on how much they are drinking. 
 
These are common themes that we see over and over again when clients ask for coaching.
The reasons why they are not seeing the progress that they want to see:

Fear of failing
Waiting for the “right” time
Telling themselves they don’t have the time
Believing they always have to feel motivated

Listen to this casual conversation as we talk about these obstacles and our recommendations for moving through them. 
 
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Ep 232 Common Setbacks with Coach Steph

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What does this even mean?
Have you ever noticed how uncomfortable you get when you perceive other people feeling some sort of discomfort or negative feelings?
If you have noticed this and then tried to 'make everyone feel better' or 'try to diffuse' a situation so the peace gets kept or whatever it is, how does this work out for you?
Does it exhaust you, make you feel anxious, overwhelmed, or edgy? And then what do you do? Drink, eat, scroll, avoid, fight...or cause a bigger issue than what actually existed?
Well, I happen to have been aware of myself being really uncomfortable and tight and edgy and grippy when I perceive some else's discomfort in a whole bunch of situations.
And that sucks because when I feel that way, I immediately want to 'make it better' for them and that feels graspy and honestly it's a big energy suck AND it doesn't work.
DANG IT.
So that's my work this month. And I invite you to come along with me and choose something that is a big discomfort for you.
Is it urges for alcohol, snacking at night or something else? What do you have a big discomfort over? The key to being more comfortable in this area is to ALLOW the initial discomfort you feel right now.
You have to be willing to go through it for it to feel better. That's the process.
This episode dives into how to do that and I share a little bit of what I am working on as an example.
Let's get uncomfortable together, friends!Join Say YES for Drinking Less:
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Ep 277 My Goal for May: Allowing My Discomfort With Other People's Discomfort

This episode helps you discover if YOU have a problem with alcohol.
Most people have an image in their minds about what someone with an alcohol problem looks like.
And for most of my clients they don't match that description.
Often people who want to cut back get pushback from their loved ones who don't understand why they are focusing on cutting back when 'they don't understand, you don't do anything bad, or nothing bad is happening from your drinking.'
Sometimes these external messages confuse our desire to cut back or quit.
You might then tell yourself, 'I work full-time, take care of the kids, take care of everything, surely I can have a couple glasses of wine at the end of the day!'
And then you dismiss your own truth.
This episode dives into this and helps you understand YOUR situation with alcohol better so you can remain clear on what you want and then can clearly communicate to others if you need to.
If you are struggling and haven't been able to make the changes you want on your own, please get help.
Join Say YES for Drinking Less taking place April 29-May 1st, 2024 register HERE: 
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You deserve to move past whatever issue you are having with alcohol.

The people who get help are more successful, don't wait any longer!

Ep 275 Navigating Skepticism: What to Do When Loved Ones Dismiss Your Desire to Cut Back:
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Ep 276 Do I Have a Problem?

This episode dives into what to do when someone you care about shares that they don’t think you need to cut back or wishes you wouldn’t cut back or dismisses your desire to quit or cut back.
Mostly, when people dismiss your desire to cut back it’s just because they don’t want to cut back.
They don’t want anything to change. So when you say you are going to do something differently, it often will make them look at their own habits around alcohol. And they might unconsciously feel a bit threatened about their own attachment to alcohol.
What really matters is that YOU acknowledge you want to cut back and that you do something about it.
And that it’s not black and white. Just because you don’t present like a down and out alcoholic doesn’t mean that your alcohol consumption isn’t a concern to you. 
If you think you drink too much and it’s been hard to cut back, it needs to be addressed. 
Don’t let someone else’s opinion deter your desire to cut back. You know if it’s too much and that is what matters.
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Ep 275 Navigating Skepticism: What to Do When Loved Ones Dismiss Your Desire to Cut Back

This is a HOT episode friends, you must listen ASAP. 
Have you secretly done something for someone else whit it's really what YOU want? 
Truth telling time! 
You must turn in to hear about this very sneaky behavior that I'm guessing WE ALL SHARE. 
Especially, people pleasers! 
I share a story of when I recently asked my son if he wanted donuts and discovered that I was doing that because I WANTED DONUTS. 
He didn't even ask about donuts, but I pretended it was something that he would have wanted and put myself in a situation that probably wasn't the best for me. 
You must tune in and listen to hear what happened! 
It's also the delusion of altruism. 
People with active addictions will tell themselves all sorts of stories 'it's for them!' 'I'm being a good host' 'it's what a good host does' 'they would appreciate this' 'I know they love xxx' 
We mask our own desires with pretending it's for someone else.
Learn how to recognize if you are doing this and how to step out of it! 
Enjoy and I'd love to hear your own story of doing this!
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Ep 274 Unveiling Self-Serving Acts: When Doing Something Nice Masks Personal Desires

I was scrolling through some of my favorite sober Instagram accounts the other day and came across a graphic that said  ‘5 ways to stop drinking.’ 
The first one was ‘prioritize yourself.’ 
I thought, yah, I know what that means but if you are reading a post on how to stop drinking, it’s likely YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT THIS MEANS. 
So, I thought, I’d explain if for y’all in this podcast episode. 
Often when we see, hear, or read these messages of advice, we think in big extremes. 
Ok, I gotta prioritize myself, and that means I have to say NO to everything, cancel all my plans and go hide for 3 months. 
And that is not something most people who want to stop over-drinking want to do, so then they don’t do anything and they continue on their path of over-drinking and staying stuck. 
In this episode, I describe the small nuances and decisions I make when I prioritize myself and my health and my life and how I want to feel in it. 
And the truth is, you do need to prioritize yourself when you are on this journey. It’s a requirement. Nobody is going to make sure your life has space in it for this work, that’s your job. And do you really want someone tracking you, asking you if you journaled, planned your food, drank your water, got good sleep every single day? Probably not. 
Of course, I can help you do that inside my coaching programs, but ultimately it’s on you to actually do it.
Listen to this episode and learn EASY ways you can make yourself a priority!
Tune in and join Alive AF!
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Get your hand picked stop over-drinking support kit, with items that I personally use to help me stay alcohol free! 
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Ep 232 Common Setbacks with Coach Steph

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