Join Peter and Carl as they dive into the world of dating for gay cis-men. To help them out, Sage offers his perspectives and experiences from being a single gay cis-man and dating. Not only do we learn a lot of terminology that heterosexual men might be unfamiliar with, we also learn the power of gender and race socialization as it impacts the gay cis-man dating scene. Understanding that our work as men is connected to the struggles of all marginalized folks is an essential part of exercising social justice.

Dating in the gay cis-man community Season 3 Episode 14

Let’s be real. Men need to bring up their social justice game, and we believe there are men out there who want to but don’t know how. Jake and Carl don’t have all the answers, but they believe that opening up and doing a lot of self-reflection is one of the best ways for men to join the movement. Listen in while they try to model that process. Jake identifies as a cis-man, White, heterosexual, disabled (learning disability), middle class, agnostic, and is fan of Star Wars.  Jake is a Communications major and Ethnic Studies minor and works as a member of the Red Whistle Brigade at Colorado State University. Currently Jake is working out a healthier masculinity around ableism. Carl identifies as a cis-man, mixed (Japanese and White), heterosexual, disabled (depression and hearing loss), middle class, agnostic, and has his Master’s Degree in Ethnic Studies. He serves as the Men’s Programming and Violence Prevention Coordinator at the Women and Gender Advocacy Center and this is his 14th total year at Colorado State University. He’s a huge fan of card and board games. Carl is currently working on finding healthy ways to build community around his dominant identities. Welcome to this podcast presented by 90.5 KCSU.

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Join Peter and Carl as they talk about DARVO, which stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim Offender. It’s a common behavior exhibited by men accused of sexual violence. Naming harmful behaviors is a great way for men to exercise social justice.

Effects of DARVO Season 4 Episode 10

It’s a cheat day! Peter and Carl take a break from the heavy lifting and snack on some ranting. The topic this time is men not washing their hands after using public restrooms.

Cheat Day! Washing hands

Yo… Carl screwed up. This is a recording from 2 years ago where Jake and Carl talk about what’s good about being a man. They are joined later by Jacob, and they talk more explicitly about identity and complicate what it means to be a man.

What’s Good About Being a Man? Season 4 Episode 9

It’s a cheat day! Peter and Carl take a break from the heavy lifting and snack on some ranting. The topic this time is men adjusting their junk in public.

Cheat Day! Men adjusting their junk

Join Peter and Carl as they embark on a journey to unpack what it means to be emotional and spiritual. They are joined by Bill, a doctoral student at CSU, to help them out. In part 1, they intellectually explore why men need to connect with their emotions. Emotional work is a great way for men to exercise social justice.

Dating in the gay cis-man community Season 3 Episode 14

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