We have all felt it, the shame that goes with the toxic relationship experience. How to deal with it and leave it in the past!




#126: Dealing with the Shame

As a toxic relationship specialist my mission is to bring hope, healing, and FREEDOM to those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships, emotional abuse, and narcissistic behaviors. Living and being in relationships that are not healthy for us can cause this type of abuse to be accepted as “normal”. TRUTH IS...ITS NOT NORMAL... ITS TOXIC! Having been in toxic relationships myself, I am now able to use my experience to guide those walking a similar path to my own. This podcast is dedicated to YOU so that you too can find peace &amp; be free of relationships that are not healthy for you.

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Always follow your intuition they say. Ok, what if we don't know how to recognize our intuition amongst the convoluted words of others. Your body has a built in defense system but overtime it seems to stop working for our good. 
What are some signs that you could be receiving from you defense system headquarters? Well, you may feel tense, have circular thoughts, a pit in your stomach, or the sense you should avoid something, some place, or some person
All of these signs (different for different people) may indeed be your bodies natural defense system attempting to keep you safe.
	 It would be easier to see if it came with a flashing light or an electric shock and then an arrow pointing to the right choice, but it doesn't. Your intuition always comes in neutral, and does not tell you what to do. 
WELL UNFORTUNATELY NEITHER THE FLASHING LIGHTS NOR THE ELECTRIC SHOCK HAPPENED IN MY SITUATION AND TADA... I MISSED IT. 
Trusting your intuition is something that is learned. There may be mistakes, wrong decision, and opposite directions before you learn how to follow the safe route it is showing you. 
Looking for guided support in your healing from unhealthy relationship? The services offered by Dr Heidi can be found in the link below. She has walked through the fire and now helps others do the same. 
https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

#228 Have you Unplugged your Defense System?

The Priority…Me!!! Retreat Is back, but this time available to any and all without travel or time off work. It Is scheduled Monday, May 13 through Friday, May 17, 2024. 


By using your PODCAST PATRON DISCOUNT CODE: ILISTEN15 you will receive 15% off when register. (Code excludes the hardship payment option)


For more information and registration
https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page
Guest speakers include 3 of my latest podcast guest.. can you guess who?


After years of doing the up and down, back and forth, taking care of myself, giving it up for others, then back to taking care of myself, I have learned and am thankful to tell you that what I discovered was this…. I ACTUALLY HAVE WAY MORE CONTROL THAN I THOUGHT IT DID. 


When things were not going well, I would look to others to support me through it, to fix it for me, and possibly take the blame for it. However, in the end it has always been a result of me slacking in the area of self care and prioritizing myself.  The other thing that I learned the hard way was that is was MY responsibility no one else’s. (That part hurt for a while, I was tired, I didn’t want to carry it anymore…..but when you have no other option than to rely on yourself …. You will figure out a way to do it.)
 3 DAYS PUTTING MY ATTENTION BACK ON MYSELF AND wallah! 

#227 What is my secret to everything?...Having a Plan!

Professional home organizer Cass Henry tells of her recent experience with decluttering her life by “throwing out” a relationship that was taking up too much space. She is an inspiration to all she encounters. Though just recently free, she is encouraging others to follow her lead and let go of the things that are cluttering up your life. Find Cass at transformedspaces.ca If you are wanting more details on the mentioned Priority…Me!!! Online retreat you can find those details along with all the other services offered by Coaching with Dr Heidi here. https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

#226 When it is Time to Declutter

After spending her first 40 years in the cultish Evangelical world, picking up many layers of cPTSD from family, religion and marriage. Charlotte is rebuilding her new life as a single mom of five kids (who has stopped homeschooling by the way.... tough decision) Single moms usually work, but in 2020 with complications from long covid she developed brain injuries along with some nervous system damage. She lost the entry level jobs she attempted to work and was unable to keep up with her long-time usual pace. This is a glimpse of her journey. Through an unhealthy marriage (arranged by the church) the leaving her evangelical upbringing (with its magical, mystical promises), She has learned God doesn’t pay your loans for you or stop abuse even if you make a covenant with Him. There is work to be done on your own part to break free of false hopes and lies in order to find your true self. 
Today Charlotte carries her message through her very own podcast "Crooked Little Girl" 
Take a listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crooked-little-girl/id1697643420
Charlotte has been a long time listener of this podcast, It's Not Normal It's Toxic, and has been a member of my online support group for many years.
(https://www.facebook.com/groups/drheidistrength 
Her mission is to speak on the spiritual abuse she endured and warn others of falsities within religion where the teachings are... well abusive.

#225 Spiritual Abuse and the Crooked Little Girl

Sabrina Magnan is a Food Freedom & intuitive Eating Coach who helps chronic dieters heal their relationship with food & their bodies and develop lasting health-promoting habits so that they can find true authentic health, free from the obsession and guilt. Sabrina has a website as well as a podcast if you are looking for more information. 
https://sabrinamagnan.com/
https://sabrinamagnan.com/podcast



#126: Dealing with the Shame

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