I'm excited to answer some anonymous questions I have received from listeners. Some topics we cover include the following:  Learning to dirty talk and flirt more How to deal with undesireable sexual side effects from medications Self-Soothing Overcoming gridlock The use of bondage in a marriage bed When grief affects sexuality Masturbation and more!  If you would like to submit an anonymous question for me to answer on the podcast, on Instagram, or in an email, you can do so on our website.  --- We have an exciting new program coming up at the end of March! Watch your email newsletter for more information!  

174: Dirty Talk, Bondage, Masturbation and More - Q&A with Dan Purcell

It’s a challenge to build a long term relationship full of love, desire, and sexy fun. It can be especially challenging for Christians in a world filled with mixed messages about sex, intimacy, and marriage that go contrary to traditional values.

Your host is Dan Purcell, a Life Coach and Couples Sex Expert that specializes in helping married couples take their sex life to the next level. You’ll gain new ideas, perspectives, and practical tools to help you "get your marriage on"! This podcast discusses fun and spicy topics you’ve always wondered about, but from a Christian-friendly perspective. For more information, visit https://getyourmarriageon.com.

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In this episode, we're going to be talking about making penetration pleasurable, a how to make intercourse amazing, and how to close the orgasm chasm in your marriage, as well as some specific techniques on how to make sex with your spouse sweeter and more worthwhile.  I love doing episodes like this because I learn a lot about how to make sex fun and meaningful in my own marriage. I'm reminded though that great sex is far more of a matter of the heart than it is about performance. I met Susan Bratton a year ago when we both shared the stage on Monica Tanner's intimacy summit. Susan is a woman in her sixties having sex like she's in her twenties. She's a gifted speaker and educator about sex and she covers a lot of material. I love how she helps me see what's possible for my wife and me in our own marriage bed.  If you like this episode, you'll definitely like . . .   ...our upcoming virtual retreat all about improving sex in your marriage this July! For this retreat, you and your spouse are going to get a hotel room Airbnb or send the kids to grandma's house so you have the house all to yourselves, and you'll join my wife and I live at Friday night, Saturday morning and Saturday night in three sessions. We'll give you a specific fun and sexy homework to try. The goal of this retreat is to explore sexuality in your marriage at a deeper level than you ever have. You'll walk away with new techniques, confidence, and learn new things about each other and more at an intimate level.   Don't miss this event on July 12!  More details on our website!   And let's not forget . . .   . . . our next in-person retreat in sunny St. George Utah, this October! This is what one past participants said about the retreat:    The marriage and intimacy. Retreat was a life-changing experience for us. After 20 years of marriage, we wanted to take our marriage from good to great. During the weekend, we gained so many incredible insights on how we were constantly trying to fix each other, rather than ourselves, and making assumptions and putting expectations on each other that were false due to a lack of honest communication that had been shaped over the past decades of routine. We gained so many tools for improving connection and communication, but also changing our own attitudes about ourselves and our intimate life. What an incredible kickstart to the next phase of our marriage. And we can't wait to get started!    These retreats are fun, romantic, deep, and instructive. We combine instruction and coaching into a powerful weekend. Your marriage deserves the very best investment of your time, talents and energy. So come vacation with us. It's limited to just 20 couples.   So act now! 

188: Awesome Intercourse and Pleasurable Penetration, with Susan Bratton

  As you know, I love answering your questions all about sex, marriage, intimacy, and more. I recently had the opportunity to answer anonymous questions from my friend Hailey Reidhead's audience. Her listeners sent in questions which I was able to answer on her podcast, "She's a Lady," and Hailey allowed me to share it here with you.   In this episode, we're going to address these great questions such as the following:    Does hormonal birth control affect libido even after you stop using it?  How often are couples actually having sex every week?  What to do when one spouse has a much bigger sex drive and it's hard to keep up (and then you feel guilty for not having sex as often as they want) and how it feels bad telling them no so much.  How to spice up a long term marriage  And more!    I believe building an intimate marriage is one of the most rewarding, most satisfying work we can experience in this life. I also believe strongly that sex is a gift from God to be enjoyed by husbands and wives and I encourage you to ask questions and seek answers about your sexual relationship.    This is why my team and I have put together the new Get Your Marriage On Program. This program is designed for busy couples that want to fix the difficulties around sex and intimacy in their marriage for good. This program isn't about new positions or ways to spice things up. It's not superficial like that.   It's about going much, much deeper.   This program is ideal for anyone that is experiencing mismatched libidos, hang ups around intimacy, struggles with good girl or good boy syndrome, facing challenges from pornography use, or want help with communication. People in this program get real results. Check out the details on my website.   Looking for more?   One way to spice things up in your marriage would be to attend our  Next Level Lovemaking Retreat! It's a virtual retreat, so you attend from the comfort of your hotel room, Airbnb, or bedroom. My wife and I hold live sessions throughout the weekend and help coach you through building and practicing amazing lovemaking. Early bird pricing is ending soon, so sign up on our website!   And if you'd like an even more immersive experience, try out our in-person retreat this October! More details here.      

187: How Often Are Couples Actually Having Sex & Your Other Intimate Questions Answered, with Hailey Reidhead

Let's get one thing out of the way right up front: dirty talk isn't dirty. It's actually an intimate form of communication to let your spouse into your heart and mind. It's a way to express the erotic part of you with your lover. It's about using your words to arouse. The nice thing about married sex, is that it's a place you can go where things don't always have to be so cleaned up, you don't have to be so buttoned up. You can be less formal with each other and use language with each other you wouldn't use in any other context, creating more arousal, intimacy, and excitement. If "dirty talk" is something you've always found awkward or have no idea where to start, you're in for a treat.This episode with Melanie Studley from the Anatomy of Us podcast will hopefully help you and your lover discover a new way to draw closer together and have some sexy fun! If you would like more help developing arousing language and sexy stories in your marriage, you might want to try our guide:  From Awkward to Arousing: A Guide to "Dirty Talking" for Christian Couples. (We recorded this podcast a couple years ago, but with so many new listeners, we wanted you to have a chance to hear it, so I've gone back to the archives so that I can share it with you today. )  If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App  Next Level Virtual Lovemaking Retreat, July 12-13 Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 >>Our brand new, signature Get Your Marriage On Program!   

186: The Art of Dirty Talk (SPOILER ALERT: it's not actually dirty), with Melanie Studley

In this episode will get a talk about how to make from behind sex positions, such as Doggy style, better. We'll talk about sex toys. We'll talk about unrealistic sexual fantasies. We'll talk about exploring your own body for sexual understanding. We'll also talk about how to treat delayed or premature ejaculation. This is going to be a really fun episode.   Just the other day, my wife and I were talking about how we, of all people were probably the least likely people on the planet to start a podcast and coaching program with the purpose of helping couples improve sex and intimacy. I guess God really does have a sense of humor. :-) Sex and marriage hasn't always come easy for my wife and I. It's something that we've learned to work towards, and it's something we'll continue to work on because it's very rewarding for us.  Part of the joy comes from the building of something we expect to last beyond a lifetime. We know the work we do in our marriage and family blesses not only our lives immediately, but our children and their children, and their children's lives to with the legacy that we'll leave. And I know we're not alone in this desire.  I appreciate your anonymous questions. If you'd like to ask me a question anonymously, you can submit one on our website. Show Highlights:     01:09 The Power of Marriage Coaching   03:22 Navigating Sexual Fantasies and Morals   07:09 Exploring Self and Shared Pleasure   14:11 Addressing Delayed and Premature Ejaculation   19:03 Mastering Sex Positions: Tips and Tricks   22:04 Choosing the Right Sex Toy for You   24:52 Closing Thoughts and Resources       If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Our brand new, signature Get Your Marriage On Program!

185: What Happens When Women Explore Their Own Sexuality and Other Questions Answered

After recording last week's episode, but Dr. Glenn and Phyllis hill, we stayed on and chat a little longer. We got started talking about sex dates and how Glen and Phyllis look forward to this time. So I suggested we record another episode to share this fun and creative concept with you. If you miss last week's episode, we talked a lot about emotional connection. This week's episode is all about this sexual connection, and it's a fun one and full of so many nuggets!  If you're like, we should totally do a sex date, but you want some specifics on how to make it amazing for yourselves, then save the dates in your calendar for July 12-14. Emily, and I will be putting on a virtual retreat where you get to join us from the comfort of your hotel room, Airbnb or bedroom. This retreat is focused on enhancing your sexual experiences as a couple. And the  details are on our website. Get the Free Core Emotions Wheel referenced in the episode here.  Use code DAN to get a discount on Connection Code courses as well.   If you've enjoyed this episode, you might like these resources: Intimately Us App Couples Retreat in St. George, UT, October 10-13 Our brand new, signature Get Your Marriage On Program!  

174: Dirty Talk, Bondage, Masturbation and More - Q&A with Dan Purcell

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