Motherhood has never been easy. But compared to today, our own mothers’ experience was a walk in the park. Suzanne discusses the truth about why motherhood is so damn hard today—and why it doesn't have to be.
IN THIS EPISODE:
1:40  Suzanne reads a viral Facebook post about “what society expects from women/mothers"
8:40  It used to be understood that mothers were an integral part of society
9:30  Men and women react differently to raising children
10:10  The ability to nurture is in a woman’s DNA
10:30  Mothers belong with their children
11:05   Median household income growth occurred when women went to work
12:30  Mothers are responsible for the emotional well-being of our citizens
13:15  Women need support to enjoy motherhood
14:10  Leaning out is an option if your husband is a steady breadwinner
16:00  Think outside the box and get away from what other people around you are doing
16:50  You have to sacrifice, but the payoff is huge
18:15  Covid has taught Americans that they CAN live on less

137. Do It, Ladies. Lean OUT.

TIRED OF THE LIES AND THE SPIN perpetuated in the culture about men and women, sex and love, marriage and motherhood? If so, get ready to hear hard-hitting truths that will make you cry out “Yes! Finally someone tells it like it is!”

In her signature no-nonsense style, author and relationship coach Suzanne Venker offers support, motivation, and countercultural guidance on how to prioritize love and family and build strong relationships at home.

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Suzanne answers an email about whether or not a family, after finally getting settled in the Midwests, should move to a big city for a higher paying job.

Should we move from suburban comfort to a big city for a higher paying job?

Suzanne reads several letters from women who've been shamed for prioritizing marriage and motherhood over career and juxtaposes this message with the reality of Barbara Walters' life, who did just that.


https://www.washingtonpost.com/books/2024/04/22/susan-page-rulebreaker-barbara-walters/



"There was never a time anyone acted like it was appropriate for me to say I wanted to be a wife and mother."

Suzanne talks about her follow-up conversation with Alex Clark of The Spillover and the shocking reality women experience in becoming new mothers.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1zuLwSOLjZs&list;=PLxx4kcMvHrwLrizrjHljVIsFqv7iLkbQa&index;=4

30-something women everywhere are BLINDSIDED by the reality of motherhood

Is eight hours per week of work away from my two children too much?
How do my husband and I maintain intimacy? Our relationship has taken a hit since I became a breastfeeding/co-sleeping mother. 

Suzanne answers reader/listener emails

The culture insists men and women would be happier if they pretended they're interchangeable and moved through life accordingly. 
But study after study after study after study proves otherwise.


LINKS:https://news.illinois.edu/view/6367/542579
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2017/09/20/americans-see-men-as-the-financial-providers-even-as-womens-contributions-grow/
https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2006/03/why-feminist-wives-are-unhappy.html
https://thelibertarianrepublic.com/nyt-traditional-gender-roles-may-mean-better-marriages/

137. Do It, Ladies. Lean OUT.

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