When our nervous system is activated it's hard to make good decisions, show up how we want to be in relationships and generally keep ourselves together! Listen to today's show for a step-by-step process to regulate your nervous system and go from chaos to calm. 
In this episode with Julie Potiker we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to find your soothing touch spot to begin calming yourself down

Understanding and releasing the shame of losing yourself and acting out in the past

How to deactivate yourself in a moment of conflict

Using free association to rewire your thinking and bring more joy to your life

Understanding the feelings below your emotions and how to do it

Detailed visualizations that will help you deal with anxiety, anger and other difficult emotions

And much more!

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424: From Chaos To Calm: Regulating Your Nervous System

I Do Podcast interviews today’s most successful and inspiring relationship experts, therapists and couples. Hosted by Chase Kosterlitz and produced by Sarah Kosterlitz, I Do Podcast is all about inspiring young couples to create a fulfilling and happy relationship. The weekly podcast will give you great advice to improve your relationship and fun ways to keep the spark alive. Each episode Chase interviews amazing relationship experts who share their knowledge on building successful and lasting love. The guests provide daily tips to improve your relationship, advice for young couples, amazing books and resources and much more.

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Anxiety, overthinking and our overall mental health has a huge impact on our physical health. It's important to understand just how much our mental and physical health are intertwined. There's no one better than a critical care nurse turned therapist like today's guest to guide us through improving and understanding the link between our mental and physical health. 
In this episode with Denise Schonwald we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to deal with anxiety and how it impacts us physically

How our body interprets anxiety

Tools to interrupt patterns of anxiety and overthinking

How to support an anxious partner

How negative mental health patterns manifest physically

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455: How To Deal With Anxiety And Overthinking

There are many ways to structure a romantic relationship outside of the traditional monogamous framework. Listen to today's episode to explore the different non-traditional relationship styles and the common issues and benefits people experience in them. 
In this episode with Dr. Joli Hamilton we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

The number one tip to experience a successful non-monogamous relationship

Should you try a non-monogamous relationship to save your current monogamous one?

How to discuss the idea of a non-monogamous relationship when you're currently in a monogamous relationship

How to navigate jealousy in any relationship

Dealing with the discomfort when experiencing jealousy

How to unpack your narrative around jealousy in your relationship

And much more!

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454: Shifting From Default Monogamous Relating

Loving someone better starts with loving ourselves better. Self awareness, understanding our childhood and being present are just some of the tools to help ourselves along this path. Listen to today's show to learn how to love ourselves and others better. 
In this episode with Dr. Jeannelle Perkins-Mohammad we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Internal acceptance and the "I love you test"

How to increase your self esteem and self compassion

Tests and questions to help unpack the trauma we may have experienced as a child

What to do if your partner does not want to do the work to improve the relationship

The importance of leaving more space for pleasure in the relationship over performance and perfection 

And much more!

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453: Improve Your Mental Health, Improve Your Relationship

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Attachment theory is one of the best ways to understand yourself, your partner and improve your relationship. Listen to today's show for tools you can use to heal your attachment wounds and work toward a more secure relationship. 
In this episode with Thais Gibson we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to reprogram yourself through the unconscious mind and heal your attachment wounds

How to change the negative stories that we tell ourselves

Learning to meet your own needs and feel 'good enough' without our partner's validation

Understanding what are realistic and unrealistic expectations

How to process feelings in a healthy way if you put a lot of negative meaning into situations

And much more!

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424: From Chaos To Calm: Regulating Your Nervous System

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