Talking points: boundaries, independence, relationships, nice guys

Yeah, it's a somewhat controversial title. It's also a challenge. Many, many men bend over backwards to prevent a partner from ever feeling disappointed, and when they inevitably do feel disappointed (because that's life sometimes), they spiral. Listen in.

(01:15) - Intro and why I'm talking about this(03:05) - Caveats(04:42) - Why this is important(07:09) - I'm not saying don't have wiggle room!


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Get Used To Her Being Disappointed

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Talking points: relationships, sex

I've worked with a LOT of men and a TON of couples in relationships, situation-ships, and what have you. When it comes to what YOU as a man can do to craft a thriving partnership, there are 3 sort of "rules" that have come up again and again. They're also what changed the game for me and led to the wildly wonderful marriage I have now. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and rule #1: stop worshipping sex
(00:05:24) - Develop the self-esteem and willingness to walk away
(00:09:08) - Get into the right place in your life, THEN find a woman

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3 Things That Will Change Your Relationship With Women

Talking point: relationships, communication, boundaries

I am so honored to be talking to Nedra this week, whose work and words have helped untold numbers of people. Her work on boundaries balances firmness with kindness in a way that I find inspiring. If you're wondering how to be more assertive and have deeper communication in all your relationships, this is gonna be your episode.

(00:00:00) - Intro and how closeness is measured by depth
(00:09:39) - Emotional followthrough is critical
(00:14:48) - How to invite others into deeper conversations and how men get trapped in problem-solving mode in relationships
(00:27:31) - Do men and women approach boundaries differently? 
(00:33:41) - Nedra’s take on what men miss with women in communication
(00:45:56) - How much does our family system impact our ability to have boundaries?
(00:50:11) - Nedra’s thoughts on the future of therapy, and what’s going to be necessary

Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, is the author of bestsellers Drama Free and Set Boundaries, Find Peace, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day, she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others. 
Nedra earned her undergraduate and graduate degrees from Wayne State University in Detroit, MI. She has additional certifications in working with families and couples and in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, plus advanced training for counseling adults who've experienced childhood emotional neglect. 
Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show, to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including The School of Greatness, We Can Do Hard Things, and Ten Percent Happier.  She hosts the podcast You Need to Hear This, and shares practices and reflections for mental health on her popular Instagram account. Nedra currently resides in Charlotte, North Carolina with her family.

Connect with Nedra
-Website: https://www.nedratawwab.com/
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/
-Podcast: https://www.nedratawwab.com/nedra-podcast

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Nedra Tawwab - Bringing Depth And Boundaries To Your Relationship

Talking points: social media, masculinity, culture, the manosphere

You know the type. The conflict-focused, disrespectful bastions of non-matured masculinity. All loudly promising—if only you follow their framework—the secret to making millions and having your own harem. 

I get a lot of asks to weigh on this. Specifically, what makes these guys so popular. Here are my thoughts.

(00:00:00) - Intro and what I grew up with
(00:03:39) - The feeling of virility and reckless certainty is understandable, but it has a cost.
(00:07:49) - If I were 19, I’d get the appeal
(00:10:05) - Men with actual status aren’t out there selling you status, and the formula these guys use
(00:14:55) - We need to pull back and ask who we’re actually listening to
(00:17:54) - It’s hard to find real elders; harder to listen

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The Rise Of Angry Male Internet Gurus

Talking points: relationships, sex

Thrilled to have Dr. Laurie return! This time, we go deep on sexual attachment. How it shows up, how it's a little different than the attachment styles you might know of, and what might be blocking it in your relationship. There is TONS of good info and insight here, team, so listen closely.

(00:00:00) - What is the “sexual attachment cycle”?
(00:05:59) - Where does the push-pull dynamic start, and how cues to sex slow down in some relationships
(00:14:37) - What secure sexuality looks like on relationship 
(00:21:19) - Why men come out of a hookup generally more satisfied than women
(00:27:29) - How do you end the push-pull dynamic and create secure sexual attachment?
(00:34:19) - Navigating intimate conversations, and don’t be fooled by social narratives
(00:43:21) - What creates a sexless relationship, and how to move forward 
(00:51:13) - Rebooting sex after a sexless relationship: the blocks

Laurie Watson, Ph.D., MA, LMFT, LCMHC, Director of Awakenings, certified sex therapist, certified EFT therapist, certified addictions specialist from IICS, has thirty years of experience working with couples and individuals about love and sex. Laurie says, “I’ve never seen a couple who I didn’t feel hope for about their healing and happiness.”
Laurie is the host of the popular podcast, FOREPLAY RADIO, ranked in the top 10 on iTunes under Sexuality. Laurie authored her first book Wanting Sex Again—How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage in December 2012. 
She’s a popular blogger, with over 15 million reads between her WebMD blog and Psychology Today Online. Laurie also lectures physician residents, PAs, and PTs at Duke’s and UNC Chapel Hill’s medical schools on sexual function and dysfunction. 
She has been published or quoted in almost every nationally popular media resource including the New York Times, Buzzfeed, HuffPo, WebMD, Glamour, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, etc. A popular media figure, she has appeared on the Katie Couric Show and Vogue Weddings and is regularly on radio and television in Raleigh and Greensboro.
Director/owner of Awakenings, Counseling for Couples and Sexuality, Laurie supervises 11 clinicians in both Raleigh and Greensboro. 

Connect with Laurie
-Website: https://lauriewatson.com/
-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LaurieWatson.CouplesTherapy/
-Podcast: Foreplay Radio: https://www.foreplayrst.com/

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Dr. Laurie Watson - How To Build Secure Sexual Attachment

Talking points: anxiety, relationships

You asked, I answer! The latest Man's Guide, specifically for folks dating someone with anxious attachment or just general anxiousness. I've had a ton of couples come to be asking how to tackle this, so here are the important things to ask yourself, and six points you can work on right away.

(00:00:00) - Intro and one of the most important elements to shifting this dynamic
(00:03:38) - What role in the dynamic are you playing? It can be hard to admit!
(00:06:48) - Signs your partner has a lot of anxiety, and the general impact on you
(00:12:33) - Immense amount of empathy for those with anxiety
(00:15:18) - So what do you do? On responsibility and regulation
(00:21:11) - Don’t personalize the panic, and create some movement
(00:25:01) - Pull them back to the present moment, and one powerful question to ask

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Men, the next Men's Weekend is VERY soon. Join us in California for a transformative journey of reclamation.
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Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify
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Get Used To Her Being Disappointed

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