#269: How to Be a Better Partner with Jillian Turecki

Themes: Psychology, Relationships, Anxiety, Resilience, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict

Summary: 

Join me in a fascinating exploration of psychology and relationships with Jillian Turecki, a certified relationship coach, teacher and writer who for 20 years has taught others how to transform their relationships with themselves. Under the tutelage of Tony Robbins and world-renowned family therapist Cloe Madanes and fueled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands through her teaching and writing revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they transform their relationships with others. 

In this episode, we explore the fascinating experiences in relationships that are often overlooked or labeled with pop-psychology terms like anxious and avoidant. Listen in to hear Jillian’s perspective on what women and men need most, how to be more objective to understand your partner better, and more of her greatest learnings from being in a relationship.

Discover:

Why attachment theory only scratches the surface of understanding each other

The biggest reasons why relationships fail

What men and women want and need most in relationship and how to understand each other better

00:00 Intro 

00:54 Jillian’s journey from yoga to relationship coach

10:36 Yoga and the mind

14:15 Somatic awareness

18:03 The loneliness of not being with yourself

19:52 The toxic dance of push-pull

26:43 How much anxiety in a relationship is too much?

28:25 We over-pathologize others as anxious or avoidant 

38:24 Asking for your needs to be met

40:28 Greatest learnings in relationship

44:13 Men and their needs in a relationship

49:31 The importance of being appreciated and understood

54:01 The complexity we hold due to familial dynamics

Links:

Website: www.jillianturecki.com

Podcast: https://listen.qcodemedia.com/jillianonlove

IG: @jillianturecki

Tik Tok: @jillian.turecki

Twitter: @JillianTurecki

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