On today's episode I chat with Leslie Petruk, Assistant trainer with the IFS Institute. Leslie is a parenting EXPERT and I am thrilled she took time out of her busy schedule to hang out. This is Leslie's third time as a guest on the podcast and all my parenting parts are thrilled to have her on again. Even though this is titled "mom guilt" this episode is for any parental/adult figure who is raising little ones. We talk about: - I am Bad. -Ways shame shows up in moms - Importance of Repair (and learning to apologize well) - "Not what you did but what you do after." - Kids and Covid - Kids and Technology -You turn as a parent - Setting up intentions - The work-life balance myth - What are managers need from us and importance of perspective - You can't afford to NOT do self care - Working from home - Importance of judgment free community and having a tribe - Kids have good intuition and bad interpretation (Mommy is crying ... I must have done something wrong). ------ Find out more about Leslie here: Home - The Stone Center – Charlotte, NCThe Stone Center – Charlotte, NC (thestonecenternc.com) Leslie H. Petruk | MA, LPC-S, NCC, BCC (selfleadership.org) ---- I would love to hear from you- follow me on Instagram and Facebook to find out when I am going to be hosting rooms on Clubhouse! I am @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter and Clubhouse. Join The One Inside Facebook Community to keep in touch. You can find the past episodes at Home - The One Inside-by Tammy Sollenberger. Enjoy!

IFS and Mom Guilt with Leslie Petruk

The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems podcast is for anyone looking to find balance and harmony. IFS can help you understand the tug-of-war within your mind and rediscover your natural calm, creativity, and clarity.  IFS can also heal the parts of you who hold pain. Hosted by certified IFS therapist, Tammy Sollenberger, this show aims to educate, support, and encourage those who are curious about IFS model of psychotherapy. Join Tammy each episode for a fun, warm, engaging conversation with various members of the IFS community.

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On today's episode I chat with Molly LaCroix about her new book! This is Molly's second appearance on the podcast. Hear her first episode here: IFS and Why Christians Talk So Much About Love But Often Fail to be Loving with Molly LaCroix - Tammy Sollenberger Molly is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in treating the impact of trauma and adversity. She earned a master’s in marriage and family therapy from Bethel Seminary San Diego, where she returned as an adjunct professor. Molly is a Certified and Level Three-trained IFS therapist and clinical consultant. We talk about:  Integrating Christian spirituality with the IFS model for personal growth and healing Using Hagar's story to introduce Self, with emphasis on self-awareness and connection to the divine Understanding Self and sin in Christian context, using King David as an example Internal work impacting relationships, using Good Samaritan parable as example The importance of internal work for spiritual growth and loving others unconditionally Managers and Firefighters stories found in the Bible Spiritual abuse, Enneagram, and personal growth The power of sacred stories and the importance of diverse voices in theological discussions  ---- Connect with Molly here: Home | Molly LaCroix - Author Buy her new book here: Journey to Shalom: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Freedom In Sacred Stories - Kindle edition by LaCroix, Molly. Religion & Spirituality Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com. Follow Molly on social media @MollyLacroixLMFT and subscribe to her upcoming Substack "Exiled and Embraced" ------ Watch video Clips from select episodes on The One Inside's YouTube channel:  The One Inside Podcast - YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy: Tammy Sollenberger (@ifs.tammy) • Instagram photos and videos and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger: The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook. ------ Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.  ------ Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold. Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website ------ Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram

IFS and Healing Through Sacred Stories with Molly LaCroix

On this re-released episode, I talk with Carmen Jimenez-Pride about her chapter in the Altogether Us book on Play Therapy. Carmen is an Lead Trainer with the IFS Insitute, the founder, and Executive Director of Outspoken Counseling and Consulting. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Registered Play Therapist Supervisor, Certified EMDR Therapist, Internal Family Systems Therapist, Registered Yoga Teacher, Registered Children Yoga Teacher and a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator. Carmen is also a LEGO® Serious Play® Facilitator. Carmen is the developer of Diversity in Play Therapy Inc.; and creator/organizer of the Diversity in Play Therapy Summit.  ____ We talk about:  Carmen's story Sand Tray Parts Mapping Engaging with Parents (unblending from our parts and helping them identify theirs) Challenges working with IFS and Kids I grow, you grow, we grow together Diversity in Play Therapy Summit Focus on Feelings curriculum  Carmen says, "What if we can prevent the impact of the Exile? ... We are able to soften the impact of the burdens parts carry using creative means in play therapy." ____ This episode is brought to you by the IFS Institute, now enrolling for their Summer Continuity Program - IFS with Children and Adolescents featuring Carmen Jimenez-Pride. Learn more here:   https://discover.ifs-institute.com/summer-continuity/?utm_source=The+One+Inside&utm;_medium=banner&utm;_campaign=Summer_Continuity ____ Watch video Clips from select episodes on The One Inside's YouTube channel:  The One Inside Podcast - YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy: Tammy Sollenberger (@ifs.tammy) • Instagram photos and videos and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger: The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook. ____ Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.  ____ Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold. Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website ____ Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram ____ The book "Altogether us" is available here: Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends - Kindle edition by Riemersma, Jenna. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com. A portion of all proceeds will go to The Foundation for Self Leadership's Fellows Program. You can find out more here: Foundation IFS: Home

IFS and Play Therapy with Carmen Jimenez-Pride

On today's episode I chat with David Eckel, an accredited mental health social worker and IFS Level 2 therapist in Australia. He is currently completing his Ph.D. focused on Internal Family Systems Therapy and Adult Attachment. As part of his Ph.D. thesis, he conducted qualitative research asking the question: “How might Internal Family Systems Therapy conceptualise and treat adults with attachment avoidance and attachment anxiety?” He shares some of his findings and insights.  In this episode we discuss:  The significance of attachment patterns and how they can change across relationships and contexts Attachment defintion and history of the theory Understanding attachment patterns in repairing ruptures (repair is key) Intersections between attachment theory and IFS  Can we call IFS an attachment-based therapy? "The Controversy" around internal vs. external attachment His research process Can parts have different attachment styles? The role of Self in healing attachment wounds Ruptures and negotiating separation and togetherness are normal and can be modeled in therapy Anxious attachment may involve reactivity, helplessness, and pulling others in Avoidant attachment may involve deactivation, caretaking, and self reliance How attachment relates to parts  ---- Visit David on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-eckel-46958232/ ---- Watch video Clips from select episodes on The One Inside's YouTube channel:  The One Inside Podcast - YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy: Tammy Sollenberger (@ifs.tammy) • Instagram photos and videos and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger: The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook. ------ Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.  ------ Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold. Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website ------ Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram

IFS and Attachment with David Eckel

This is a re-release of Season 2 Ep. 65 with Paul Neustadt. To find the Free Webinar and register for the four-week workshop from Life Architect, go to:  Free webinar: Working with Therapist Parts to Access Self in IFS Therapy (lifearchitect.com)  IFS: Therapeutic Relationship and Power of Presence by Paul Neustadt (lifearchitect.com) ----- On today's episode I chat with Paul Neustadt, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute. Paul has such a warm, engaging teaching style and I just loved our conversation. Paul's answer to the last question, "What would you do instead?" may be my new life goal or at least a daily intention. We discuss: 1. Creating our own inner circle - when you have a hard time accessing compassion (or Self) 2. Impacts of individualism (our culture) on our parts 3. Tapping into our own inner wisdom 4. The Gifts of our Exiles 5. Paul demonstrates Direct Access with one of my manager parts 6. Degrees of Blending 7. Inviting exiles (the younger parts of us) to 'tune into their true nature, who they really are' 8. Relational Heart Based Activism 9. When Self energy seems impossible. "What is this thing called Self and how do I get it!?" ---- Watch video Clips from select episodes on The One Inside's YouTube channel:  The One Inside Podcast - YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy: Tammy Sollenberger (@ifs.tammy) • Instagram photos and videos and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger: The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook. ------ Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.  ------ Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold. Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website ------ Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram ------ This episode is sponsored by Life Architect. As the IFS Institute's international partner, they organize IFS training and online workshops about IFS and other therapy modalities for those new to IFS and experienced practitioners alike. Life Architect is committed to advancing the professional development of mental health professionals around the world.

IFS and the Wisdom of Our Parts with Paul Neustadt

On today's episode I chat with Dr. Frank Anderson about his new memoir, "To Be Loved." A beloved psychiatrist and leader in the IFS community, this is Frank's third appearance on the podcast. We talk about: Unexpected Impact of a vulnerable personal memoir vs his other clinical themed books (3:05) Separation of Self from intelligence Parts- "I am not just my Smart part" (3:31) Love and disconnection from self and others (5:33) Childhood trauma memories and healing experience with mom (11:11) Experience of love (12:19) Forgiveness of father and himself (17:25) Reconciliation vs. forgiveness (19:32) Impact on and from his siblings (22:21) Writing as healing - he encourages writing your "moments that made me" for healing (25:54) Music and healing - how music helped his healing journey and influenced his chapter titles (32:01) Bringing trauma healing to more people with new initiatives like the Trauma Institute  (39:15)   * The full video of this episode is available on  The One Inside Podcast - YouTube ----- Find out more about Frank here: Trauma Blocks Love. Love Heals Trauma. (frankandersonmd.com) ------ Follow Tammy on Instagram Tammy Sollenberger (@ifs.tammy) and on Facebook at  The One Inside: Internal Family Systems with Tammy Sollenberger | Facebook. ------ Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He completed the IFS Circle and is currently enrolled in an IFS Level 1 training.  ------ Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Amazon.com: Books or wherever books are sold. Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website ------ Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram.    

IFS and Mom Guilt with Leslie Petruk

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