Don’t marry the first person you fall in love with. The more relationship experience you have before getting married, the better. That way you'll really “know” yourself when you say, ‘I do.’

For decades this has been the relationship narrative passed on to the young and unattached. But my experience as a relationship coach suggests the opposite is true.
So does the data.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LQ6WXvBvwWE

https://themattwalshblog.wordpress.com/2013/09/05/heres-some-honest-dating-advice/comment-page-1/




Ep. 195: Is more relationship experience really better?

TIRED OF THE LIES AND THE SPIN perpetuated in the culture about men and women, sex and love, marriage and motherhood? If so, get ready to hear hard-hitting truths that will make you cry out “Yes! Finally someone tells it like it is!”

In her signature no-nonsense style, author and relationship coach Suzanne Venker offers support, motivation, and countercultural guidance on how to prioritize love and family and build strong relationships at home.

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Suzanne reads several letters from women who've been shamed for prioritizing marriage and motherhood over career and juxtaposes this message with the reality of Barbara Walters' life, who did just that.


https://www.washingtonpost.com/books/2024/04/22/susan-page-rulebreaker-barbara-walters/



"There was never a time anyone acted like it was appropriate for me to say I wanted to be a wife and mother."

Suzanne talks about her follow-up conversation with Alex Clark of The Spillover and the shocking reality women experience in becoming new mothers.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1zuLwSOLjZs&list;=PLxx4kcMvHrwLrizrjHljVIsFqv7iLkbQa&index;=4

30-something women everywhere are BLINDSIDED by the reality of motherhood

Is eight hours per week of work away from my two children too much?
How do my husband and I maintain intimacy? Our relationship has taken a hit since I became a breastfeeding/co-sleeping mother. 

Suzanne answers reader/listener emails

The culture insists men and women would be happier if they pretended they're interchangeable and moved through life accordingly. 
But study after study after study after study proves otherwise.


LINKS:https://news.illinois.edu/view/6367/542579
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2017/09/20/americans-see-men-as-the-financial-providers-even-as-womens-contributions-grow/
https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2006/03/why-feminist-wives-are-unhappy.html
https://thelibertarianrepublic.com/nyt-traditional-gender-roles-may-mean-better-marriages/

Deviating from conventional gender roles makes most men and women miserable

Suzanne responds to folks who suggested a new way to keep The Suzanne Venker Show going...

Ep. 195: Is more relationship experience really better?

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