LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS by Jessica Da Silva, LMFT

04.24.2024

Four Steps to Connect to Your “Secure Self”

In this week's podcast episode, I share four practical ways to connect to your “secure self” so that you can make decisions from a place of authenticity versus insecurity. —— Attachment Coaching - Let’s work together - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

04.04.2024

To Stay or Break-up? Leaving My Relationship of Six Years (Personal Share)

Many of you know I was in a relationship for over six years. Though it was a beautiful relationship and healthy in many ways, some major core differences and incompatibilities made it challenging. In this episode, I share the struggle...

03.14.2024

Overcoming Relationship Jealousy With Shanenn Bryant

Today on the podcast, we have Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast. Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. We...

03.01.2024

Trauma Recovery for Attachment Styles With Rowan Garlow

Today on the podcast, we have Rowan Garlow, a trauma recovery practitioner who utilizes Voice Dialogue, Somatic Experiencing, Inner Child, and Soul Retrieval for healing and integrating unresolved trauma. We talk about: -What is trauma recovery work? -What attachment trauma looks like specifically. -How...

02.19.2024

Why We Tolerate Difficult Relationships

In this episode, I talk about why each attachment style tolerates difficult or painful relationships, why we aren’t stuck to these ways of experiencing love, and tips on how to move beyond our limitations. —— Find me here: 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram...

02.08.2024

Simplifying the Four Attachment Styles with Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley

Dr. Anita Kuhnley is an author, esteemed scholar, expert counselor, and speaker who just released a book called “The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help in Your Search for Lasting Love.” We talk about: -The breakdown of each...

02.01.2024

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Compromise Within Relationships with Imani Tutt

Imani Tutt, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Intuitive Coach talks about relationship compromise, why it’s normal, and healthy versus unhealthy compromising. ——- Find Imani here: https://imaniintouch.com Instagram: @imani.intouch ——- Find Jessica here: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva

01.24.2024

Difference Between Relationship Anxiety and Relationship OCD with Dr. Holly Batchelder

In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Holly Batchelder, a Seattle-based licensed clinical psychologist, shares her expertise on relationship anxiety and OCD, their major differences, how they manifest in our lives, and how to treat it to experience a fulfilling life. You...

01.05.2024

Difference Between Needs and Expectations

In this week's podcast episode, I talk about the difference between needs and expectations. Understanding this distinction can alleviate anxiety and create more fulfilling relationships. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

12.27.2023

How To Stop Attracting Toxic People

In this week's podcast episode, I address the fear many of us hold about why we attract toxic people and the real (transformative) questions we need to be asking ourselves instead. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

12.18.2023

How Alcoholic Parent(s) Influence the Development of Our Attachment Style

PODCAST In this week's podcast episode, I share how having alcoholic parents (one or both) can influence the development of anxious, dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant attachment style, as well as steps you can take to shift these patterns and learned...

12.08.2023

How I Navigate the Distance in My Relationship (Anxious - Avoidant Dynamic)

In this week's podcast episode, I share my personal experience with navigating the distance in my relationship, as we tend to spend long periods apart due to the nature of his work. I also talk about the challenges of anxious-avoidant...

11.29.2023

How To Navigate Relationship Ambivalence (Aka, Confusion and Indecision)

Relationship ambivalence (aka, confusion or indecision) is very common for those of us who have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style. In this episode, I help you understand your ambivalence and give you steps to take on...

11.24.2023

Putting Myself First with Alicia (Client Stories)

Today on the podcast we have a special guest. Alicia is a former attachment coaching client of mine sharing her experience with having an anxious attachment style, learning to let go of control, prioritizing herself and her needs, healing from...

11.16.2023

How to Measure Your Progress in Developing a Secure Attachment Style

Dismantle misconceptions about developing a secure attachment style and learn how to measure your progress accurately. ——— Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com

10.26.2023

How Each Attachment Style Experiences 5 Stages of a Relationship

Learn about how each attachment style moves through the 5 relationship stages. This episode focuses highly on the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant). ——— Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com

10.10.2023

Normalizing “The Icks” in Dating and Relationships with Kelsey Wonderlin

Today on the podcast, we have Kelsey Wonderlin. Kelsey is a licensed therapist and a dating and relationship coach. She helps women who struggle with anxiety attract & HOLD ONTO a healthy relationship. She is also passionate about debunking the myths many...

10.02.2023

Navigating a Break-Up As Someone With an Anxious Attachment Style with Alexa (Client Stories)

Today we have a special guest, Alexa. She is a mother, a humanitarian, a leader, a former client of mine, and just a beautiful soul who was willing to come onto the podcast and share her story of navigating love...

09.26.2023

Can We Change Our Attachment Style? (The Honest Truth)

In this episode, I share what research says about whether we can actually change our attachment style. ——— Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

09.07.2023

Realities for Insecure Attachers in Relationships

In this episode, I share some hard truths about how insecure attachments (anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant variations) experience relationships in hopes of cultivating more self-acceptance and realistic expectations for themselves and others. ——— Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

08.23.2023

Normalizing Insecurities and Relationship Anxiety

In this episode, I share my experience with relationship anxiety in hopes of normalizing the ebbs and flows that naturally occur in relationships, especially those with insecure attachments. ——— Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

08.15.2023

Why Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Attract Each Other

In this episode, I share why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other from an attachment lens, and how they can work towards creating a secure bond. These tips apply for all attachment style dynamics. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/

08.08.2023

How Understanding Attachment Styles Can Help Your Relationships

In this episode, I share how understanding attachment styles can help your relationships in a multitude of ways. This includes relationships with partner, friends, family, and colleagues. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/

08.02.2023

Differences Between Coaching and Therapy

In this episode, I share some major differences between coaching and therapy, in order to help you identify which approach is best for you. I also share why I transitioned from working as a Mental Health Therapist to an Attachment...

06.20.2023

Set Boundaries & Reclaim Your Power with Arnie (Client Stories)

What you'll learn… * The challenges of co-parenting and how to navigate it in a secure way * The importance of setting boundaries to reclaim your power * How to identify red flags in a relationship * Overcoming toxic relationships * Dating as a single...

06.12.2023

How Attachment Styles May Self-Sabotage Dating & Relationships

What you'll learn… * Defining relationship self-sabotage. * How each attachment style (including secure attachments) may sabotage dating and relationships. * Why they behave in these unhealthy ways. * How to stop pushing those you love away. ——— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

05.26.2023

Unhealthy Vs. Healthy Ways Attachment Styles Communicate Needs

What you’ll learn in this episode: -Why we have difficulty communicating our needs. -The consequences of not communicating our needs directly. -How each attachment style communicates their needs. -Healthier ways of communicating your needs to create relationship satisfaction. ———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure...

05.19.2023

How Each Attachment Style Parents Their Children

What you’ll learn in this episode: -How each attachment style parents their children. -How to form secure bonds with your children. -Why you shouldn’t feel bad about your parenting style. -Why it’s important to break these generational patterns. ———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure...

05.02.2023

Navigating Relationship Anxiety For Fearful Avoidant Attachment with Bouket (Client Stories)

In this episode, former client, Bouket, shares her experience navigating her fearful avoidant attachment style. We touch on relationship anxiety, intuition vs. fear, finding secure love, managing triggers, balancing the masculine/feminine, and so much more. ———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self...

04.18.2023

What If Your Relationship Needs Change?

In this episode, I share how common it is for our relationship needs to change, how that impacts our life, how to identify what those needs are, and how to navigate those insecurities in a healthy way. 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My...

01.16.2023

Saving My Relationship Through Saving Myself (A personal share on meeting my needs)

Why did I move away from my fiancé after getting engaged? In this episode, I share my personal experience with saving my relationship through saving myself. Also, how to know the difference between self-sacrifice versus self-neglect. ______ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ——...

12.27.2022

Anxious Attachments & Long Distance Relationships with Zahirah Evitt

Free 5-Day Series Attachment Style Guide: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.lpages.co/attachement-guide/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

11.18.2022

Attachment Styles and Hook-Ups

Free 5-Day Series Attachment Style Guide: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.lpages.co/attachement-guide/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

10.27.2022

Honoring Your Anxious Attachment Style and Creating More Security with Chris Rackliffe

Today's guest is Chris Rackliffe. Chris is an author and Anxious Attachment Coach who shares his personal story, wisdom, and tips to guiding anxious attachers into more joy and fulfillment. Book: It’s Good To See Me Again Tiktok: @crackliffe Instagram: @crackliffe ------------- My Secure...

10.18.2022

Benefits of Dating Each Attachment Style

My Secure Self E-Course https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

10.08.2022

How Attachment Styles Cope With Relationship Anxiety (Activating & Deactivating Strategies)

In this episode, I talk about how the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant) cope with relationship anxiety. ---------------- My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

10.01.2022

How To Reverse The “Caretaker Role” (for anxious and fearful avoidant attachments)

In this episode, I talk about how (and why) anxious and fearful avoidant attachments identify as “caretaker”, “savior” and/or “fixer” in their relationships and how to shift these roles in order to promote more balanced relationships. ---------------- My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me...

09.21.2022

The Feminine and Masculine Polarity of Attachment Styles with Natalie Kennedy

In this episode, Relationship Anxiety Coach and founder of Anxious Love Coach, Natalie Kennedy, shares her personal experience with relationship anxiety, her process for managing this anxiety, the multidimensionality of attachment styles, as well as how she uses feminine and...

09.14.2022

Owning Your Anxious Attachment Style with Rikki Cloos

In this episode, writer and content creator behind @anxiousheartsguide, Rikki Cloos, shares the healing power of owning your anxious attachment style. She also gives tons of helpful insights and tips on how to become more securely attached yourself. ______________ Rikki Cloos: Instagram...

09.08.2022

How To Soothe Your Anxiety with Gabrielle Gonzalez, LMFT

In this episode, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Mindfulness Expert Gabrielle Gonzalez shares her challenges with having an Anxious Attachment Style and how self-soothing has helped her cultivate more security within herself and her relationships. Gabrielle shares the benefits...

09.01.2022

How We Restored Our Fearful Avoidant Mother/Daughter Relationship with Jessica and Denise Da Silva

My goal with this podcast is to give you guys an inside look into my relationship with my mother. If you’ve been listening for a while, you know my mom has played a huge role in my prior fearful avoidant...

08.23.2022

How Each Attachment Style Manages Financial Insecurity Within Relationships With Ed Coambs

In this episode, Ed Coambs, a Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Financial Therapist & Planner, talks about how each attachment style experiences financial anxiety within a relationship and insights on how to approach it in healthier, secure ways. ————————— Find Ed...

08.16.2022

Healing My Avoidant Attachment Wounds with Ren Russ

In this episode, guest speaker Ren Russ talks about her challenges in dating and relationships with having an avoidant attachment style. Ren speaks to the complexities and the multidimensional nature of our attachment style(s). If you’re ready to understand the...

08.11.2022

What To Do When Your Needs Are Not Being Met

In this episode, I talk about some key essential elements for deciphering whether your needs are or are not being met in your relationship and what to do. This episode will give you clarity moving forward. ————————— Values List: https://drive.google.com/file/d/16wyOMzM749bJVtWIAi1dNX89qvxWB_0c/view?usp=sharing My Secure Self...

08.03.2022

The Relationship Survival Kit w/ Jessica Da Silva and Jemma Joel

Todays podcast episode is a little different as I am sharing an interview in which I was a guest on Jemma Joels The Dating Diaries Podcast. I loved our conversation so much that I asked her if I could share the...

07.28.2022

Healing My Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style with Meghan (Client Stories)

In this episode, former coaching client Meghan Kelley shares her journey of beginning overcome her fearful avoidant attachment style and her favorite tools to becoming more secure. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free...

07.27.2022

From Fearful Avoidant To Secure Love with Priyanka Y. (Client Stories)

In this episode, Intimacy and Dating Coach Priyanka Yadvendu shares her story of healing her Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and finally experiencing her first secure relationship. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Priyanka’s instagram @wildyintimate —————————- Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a...

07.13.2022

Attachment Type Combinations in Relationships

In this episode, I talk about how each attachment style experiences relationships with other attachment styles and tips to mitigate certain challenges that arise with these specific dynamics. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a...

07.07.2022

How Each Attachment Style Deals With Break-Ups

In this episode, I talk about how each attachment style deals with break-ups…From their general thoughts and feelings to their behavioral responses. This will help you understand what they may be experiencing through an attachment lens. ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find...

06.27.2022

Breaking Generational Patterns of Attachment

Learn about how attachment trauma gets passed down from generation to generation and how to begin breaking these painful cycles! ————————— My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment...

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