Flying Free

12 Life-Changing Beliefs That Will Unhook You From Abuse Part Three [183]

08.09.2022 - By Natalie HoffmanPlay

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Life after abuse can feel like you’re just spinning your wheels. You struggle with the same things. The same thoughts. The same downward spirals. Over and over and over.   Flying Free is all about breaking out of harmful cycles, in and after abusive relationships. If you want to see this in action, Amie is a poster child for life beyond abuse: healing, thriving, and constantly growing.    Our discussion was so powerful, her story so incredible, the amazing freedom she’s experienced so inspiring, that we talked for two hours. There was no way I was going to cut a single minute from the recording, so I broke it into three episodes.    This series catalogs her thought transformations, from old to new, across the most important aspects of her life, the parts that were hit the hardest by spiritual and emotional abuse. So if you’re feeling stuck, defeated, or just plain frustrated as heck in your recovery process, this is one of the greatest freebies you’ll come across.   If you just started following along, check out Part 1 and Part 2, then skip back here for the grand finale. Because the last thing survivors want is for the abuse they survived to torment them into the future…and these episodes are a line in the sand.  In Part 3 of 3:Old Thought #1: Grief, sadness, anger, and anguish are too hard and can be sinful. I will avoid them.New Thought #1: There are no good or bad emotions. I will experience them in full without getting trapped.3 more old thoughts and 3 more powerful new thoughtsWhy “dirty” pain is so overwhelming, but “clean” pain is manageable (and helpful!)What exiles, firefighters, and parents have to do with your brain after traumaWhy regulating before responding is so importantHow to have curiosity instead of judgment (which greatly increases your chance of breaking negative thought patterns)The critical importance of community in changing your thoughts and resultsThe FREE PDF DOWNLOAD for old thoughts vs. new thoughts Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com

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