A new documentary about the student loan crisis, entitled “Borrowed Future,” will stream on October 14th. Suzanne discusses how this crisis is undermining love and family formation—and why, with a shift of one's mindset, it doesn't have to.
IN THIS EPISODE:
4:00  Student loan debt is affecting a couple's availability to marry and have kids
4:50  Debt is undermining marriages and keeping couples from being successful
5:30  We've sold student debt without making young people aware of how it affects their future
6:00  Marriage is on the decline due to MONEY issues - “We can't afford to get married!”
7:40  Couples can't succeed in getting out of debt if they're not on the same page
10:25  When you do not combine finances and do not get on the same page financially, you are essentially saying you do not trust your spouse
13:55  Parents of should not encourage their kids to get into student loan debt
14:45  It does NOT matter where you get your degree

121. Money & Marriage Series: How Student Loans Sabotage Love & Marriage

TIRED OF THE LIES AND THE SPIN perpetuated in the culture about men and women, sex and love, marriage and motherhood? If so, get ready to hear hard-hitting truths that will make you cry out “Yes! Finally someone tells it like it is!”

In her signature no-nonsense style, author and relationship coach Suzanne Venker offers support, motivation, and countercultural guidance on how to prioritize love and family and build strong relationships at home.

Society & Culture

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Philosophy

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Suzanne answers an email about whether or not a family, after finally getting settled in the Midwests, should move to a big city for a higher paying job.

Should we move from suburban comfort to a big city for a higher paying job?

Suzanne reads several letters from women who've been shamed for prioritizing marriage and motherhood over career and juxtaposes this message with the reality of Barbara Walters' life, who did just that.


https://www.washingtonpost.com/books/2024/04/22/susan-page-rulebreaker-barbara-walters/



"There was never a time anyone acted like it was appropriate for me to say I wanted to be a wife and mother."

Suzanne talks about her follow-up conversation with Alex Clark of The Spillover and the shocking reality women experience in becoming new mothers.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1zuLwSOLjZs&list;=PLxx4kcMvHrwLrizrjHljVIsFqv7iLkbQa&index;=4

30-something women everywhere are BLINDSIDED by the reality of motherhood

Is eight hours per week of work away from my two children too much?
How do my husband and I maintain intimacy? Our relationship has taken a hit since I became a breastfeeding/co-sleeping mother. 

Suzanne answers reader/listener emails

The culture insists men and women would be happier if they pretended they're interchangeable and moved through life accordingly. 
But study after study after study after study proves otherwise.


LINKS:https://news.illinois.edu/view/6367/542579
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2017/09/20/americans-see-men-as-the-financial-providers-even-as-womens-contributions-grow/
https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2006/03/why-feminist-wives-are-unhappy.html
https://thelibertarianrepublic.com/nyt-traditional-gender-roles-may-mean-better-marriages/

121. Money & Marriage Series: How Student Loans Sabotage Love & Marriage

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