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My Abusive Husband Says I’m Unbiblical Unless I Reconcile with Him

11.01.2022 - By Natalie HoffmanPlay

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“Unless you forgive and come back to me, you’re disobeying God and the Bible!”

If I were your abusive husband, I’d say the same thing. Why? Cause then I’d get what I want. Woohoo! Isn’t that what the Bible is all about?

Oh, begging your pardon. I was basing my opinion off how I see most church leaders and many legalistic Christians approach the Bible.

Which means that if you’re looking for advice on whether you should reconcile with your abusive husband — and what reconciliation really means — you’re going to get a whole charcuterie board of different answers. From biased people. Trying to interpret text that doesn’t give a full answer on… basically anything.

Consider this alternative: Ask a different question and provide your own answer.

Sound heretical? Then keep reading (and listening).

In this episode, I spill some tasty tea on:

- 3 thoughts I have about about a husband who demands reconciliation (one involves an ax)

- Why people who accuse others of being unbiblical are actually doing exactly what they’re accusing others of doing (whew, that was a mouthful)

- The limitations of the Bible

- How to use the Bible to make a case for anything (genocide, slavery, rape, misogyny, political ideologies, etc.)

- The danger of worshiping the Bible

- Why relying on the Bible for all the answers means you’re going to be constantly confused, shoved in different directions, and easily manipulated

- What we have that’s much better than the Bible

- What the size of God has to do with the questions like “Do I have to go back?” and “Do I have grounds for divorce?”

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