“You deserve to be held just as much as your baby.” Just one of the many gems Stephanie Defilippis shares in our conversation about navigating motherhood and the quest for support in America. Because in America, we really fall behind in providing support to new moms, both in our communities and from a policy perspective.
Stephanie is a perinatal mental health therapist in Illinois. She owns a group therapy practice called crescent moon therapy, where they specialize in working with individuals throughout the reproductive period.
She shares her thoughts on the postpartum period women experience in other countries as well as what we can do to create similar experiences here in America. There truly is an invisible village at your fingertips. Listen in to find out more. 
 
In this episode, we discuss: 
The invisible village here in America.
The importance of having community support throughout motherhood.
What our ideal community support system would look like.
How you can cultivate your own support system at home.
 
Resources: 
Connect with Stephanie:
Website:Maternal Mental Health
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Questions:
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What are barriers to building a village?
We hear these questions a lot- "Why is it so hard for me to ask for help? Why does it feel hard for me to create my own village?" Let's unpack them together
How can women create their own village? Both pre-pregnancy and postpartum. Even as a mom with older children, there are ways to create yourself a village
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149: Navigating Motherhood and the Quest for Support in America with Stephanie Defilippis

The Motherhood Meets Medicine Podcast is a space that brings all women together. It's for those who hope to be a mom one day, those who are already mothers, and mothers of mothers. This podcast will give you candid, informal interviews on motherhood topics that you can listen to while you're driving to work, folding laundry or whatever else your busy day may bring. Each week, Your host, Lynzy Coughlin, will be focusing on topics ranging from postpartum issues to parenting teens. She's bringing in experts with formal training to cover everything motherhood! So grab your coffee and join us for a weekly chat on your time. All are welcome! Lynzy is a Physician Assistant in the Emergency Department where she has practiced medicine for the last 15 years. You can connect with Lynzy on her Substack account, Badass Matriarch.

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Have you ever heard your child say something truly negative about themselves? Do they do it often? We all have a mental talk track that plays in our head through which we process our lives and emotions. So do kids. 
What do we do when our kids start to display signs of their talk track becoming negative? Joining me today to share more about why negative self-talk occurs and how to navigate it with our kids is Dr. Emily King. 
Dr. King is a child psychologist and former school psychologist who has worked with neurodivergent children and teens for the last 20 years. She received a PhD in School Psychology from UNC Chapel Hill, where she worked at Frank Porter Graham Child Development Institute and the Carolina Institute for Developmental Disabilities. 
She spent five years working as a school psychologist and public schools in Houston, Texas, where she specialized in providing school based mental health services. Dr. Emily now works in private practice in North Carolina specializing in supporting the mental health needs of neurodivergent youth. 
Listen as Dr. King shares her tips, tricks, and advice for becoming an effective advocate for our children… to our children. Because they need us to be the ones to help them navigate their feelings and emotions. 

In this episode, we discuss: 
Negative self-talk and what it is.
How negative self-talk presents in children.
Ways to determine where negative self-talk is stemming from and how to respond.
 Why it’s important to get curious rather than to simply react when your child says something negative.
Different ways to help your child find their “thing”.
 
Resources: 
Connect with Dr. King
Learn with Dr. Emily -https://www.learnwithdremily.com/
Learn with Dr. Emily Substack -https://learnwithdremily.substack.com/

Questions: 
How do we know if children really mean what they say when they engage in negative self-talk?
How can we respond in a way that supports and doesn't invalidate when a child is feeling negative about themselves?
Why are neurodivergent children more likely to engage in negative self-talk?
 
Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The information on this podcast is for informational purposes only. No material on this site is intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. 
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164: Navigating Negative Self-Talk with Our Kids with Emily W. King P.h.D

Traveling with children is not for the faint of heart. Leaving everything you’ve ever known along with family and friends to pursue a different lifestyle in a whole new country? Not a decision to be made lightly. 
But when you know that you’re being called to something different, you take the leap and see where you land. Christina Dismuke and her husband did just that and she’s here to tell us all about it. 
Christina was born and raised in Houston, Texas, and has her undergraduate and master's degree in education from Texas A&M. She has lived in Perth, Australia for the last four years with her husband and four kids all under the age of seven. When their twins were born, she took a career pause from the classroom, and has enjoyed the impact this has had on her family as they moved abroad. 
Their move to Australia and having four kids in general has really moved them toward simplicity, access to next day delivery materials for social media worthy sensory play invitations, etc. Just isn't a thing in Perth, one of the most remote cities in the world. It has steered her ship in a different direction and has invited Christina to be a better noticer picking up on what her kids are watching and giving them access to it. 
Listen in as she shares all about their life now and why they couldn’t have made a better decision for their family.
In this episode, we discuss: 
Their decision to live and raise their children internationally.
Her pregnancy and postpartum care in Perth and how it differs from the United States.
The differences in childcare and the schooling system in Perth.
Practical tips for traveling or living abroad with kids in general.
Resources: 
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Connect with Christina:
Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/christinadismuke/?hl=en
Questions: 
Why did you and your husband decide to raise your kids abroad?
Is pregnancy and postpartum handled better in Australia?
How does the school system in Australia compare to the United States?
What are some tips for people traveling and or moving abroad with children?

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163: Raising Kids Abroad with Christina Dismuke

Protecting our children online is so important. We all know that we need to teach our kids not to share their personal information with strangers online, but what else is there? How can we approach this monumental task with grace and understanding? 
Here to share her thoughts is Fareedah Shaheed.
Fareedah is an award winning Internet safety expert and a Forbes 30 under 30 honoree. She uses her background in cybersecurity and online gaming to help parents protect their kids online. Her work has been featured in CNN, The Wall Street Journal, NASA, Fox, Yahoo, and many more for Rita offers a course on how to protect your children on their phone, and it will be linked in the show notes below. She's also currently working on a Roblox safety webinar launch and additional free webinars throughout this year.
This was a brilliant conversation that provided really important insights on ways to have conversations with your children at all ages and stages and why you might need to look internally before discussing with your kids. 
In this episode, we discuss: 
How Freedah came to be an internet safety expert.
How the landscape of internet safety has changed over the years.
Sextortion and how to talk to your children about it.
Thoughts on parental control and monitoring software.
Resources: 
Dr. Nicole Le Pera: The Holistic Psychologist - https://theholisticpsychologist.com/
Train Live with Marisa Peer - https://marisapeer.com/
Connect with Fareedah:
The Hidden Threat: Protecting Your Child On Their Phonehttps://sekuva.mykajabi.com/protecting-your-child-on-their-phone
PKO Ambassador:https://sekuva.mykajabi.com/partner-with-cyberfareedah-pko-ambassador-info-page
My free Protect Kids Online (PKO) Resource Library:https://sekuva.mykajabi.com/get-your-internet-safety-resource-library
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/cyberfareedah/
Questions:
What's the number one mistake parents make when it comes to protecting their kids online?
What's your thoughts on parental control and monitoring software?
What are some effective ways to educate kids on internet safety?
Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The information on this podcast is for informational purposes only. No material on this site is intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. 
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162: Protecting Children Online with Fareedah Shaheed

Over the next few months, I’ll be mixing in some of our earlier Motherhood Meets Medicine interviews with new episodes. These ‘best of’ episodes are the most shared and listened to episodes of all time!
Here is today’s featured episode with Kate Mangino, PhD all about unlearning traditional gender norms in the household. 
Gender norms are slowly changing in the everyday household. Men used to be the income providers and bring home the money while women would take care of the children and house chores. Since times have been changing, women are expecting more from their partners even as little as switching caregiving roles so the women can have some time to themselves for a minute or two.
The women in my community have loved Kate's book Equal Partners and requested to have her on as a guest. Kate's role and expertise in social changes provides incredible insight into hard hitting questions from the community and change.
Kate Mangino, PhD is a gender expert and professional facilitator who works with international non-profit organizations to promote positive social change. She has written and delivered curricula in over 20 countries about issues such as: gender equality, women’s empowerment, healthy masculinity, HIV prevention, and early and forced childhood marriage.
She brings her lens of gender and social change to her debut book, Equal Partners, which addresses household gender inequality in the United States and offers practical advice as to what each of us can do to rewrite gender norms.
While we are still working on changing social norms in this generation. In today's episode, we talk about gender norms and creating household balance. Kate will share what she learned during her research for her book, and she gives some excellent suggestions on how to raise conversations with your partner about gender. She will also share some data on raising boys and give some tips on how we can raise our boys to be caregivers as they grow older.

In this episode we discuss:

Women who had to leave the workforce to take care of the family and how that impacted the dynamic of the home.

How to bring up a life changing conversation about gender roles.

Encouraging boys at a young age to feel their emotions and put a name to it.

Anyone can work on gender equality- not just those in a nuclear family.

Why hours in a work day can be a big issue in dividing up family tasks throughout the day.


Resources:

Grab a copy of Kate's book, Equal Partners

When Moms Outearn Their Husbands, They Gain More Housework, Study Says

https://katemangino.com/

https://twitter.com/manginokate


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161: LISTENER FAVORITE: Unlearning Traditional Gender Norms to Move Towards Household Equality with Kate Mangino, PhD

Over the next few months, I’ll be mixing in some of our earlier Motherhood Meets Medicine interviews with new episodes. These ‘best of’ episodes are the most shared and listened to episodes of all time!
Today’s featured episode is an interview with Nate and Kaley Klemp of the 80/80 Marriage. When you start a new relationship, it’s logistics 5% of the time and fun the other 95% of the time. However, when you bring kids into the mix, that ratio tends to flip and now you’re struggling to find the balance of taking care of your kids' while still having fun for yourselves. Far too often, the relationship is challenged due to lost connection, communication issues, and lots of blaming. Kaley and Nate Klemp are on the podcast to share how you can turn this around and find connection again.
Nate and Kaley Klemp are authors of the New York Times Editors’ Choice selection, The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage. Nate is a founding partner at Mindful Magazine and also the coauthor of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing.
Kaley is one of the nation's leading experts on small-group dynamics and leadership development, a TEDx speaker, and the author of three other books, including the Amazon Bestseller The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, The Drama-Free Office, and 13 Guidelines for Effective Teams.
In today’s episode we discuss common traps couples fall into, issues of the 50/50 model of marriage, how you can shift into the 80/80 model, and how to create connections and better communicate with your partner.
In this episode we discuss:

How couples fall into unconscious habits.

The key ingredient to a thriving relationship

The benefits of reveal and request.

The importance of opening communication to your partner on a day to day basis.

How to create daily connections with your spouse.

How date nights have been scientifically proven to improve your relationships



Resources:

80/80 Marriage Website 

Subscribe to the 80/80 Newsletter

Free Epic Date Night Guide 

Follow Nate and Kaley on Instagram @8080marriage

Tips on Reveal and Request


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Disclaimer: This podcast does not provide medical advice. The information on this podcast is for informational purposes only. No material on this site is intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. 
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149: Navigating Motherhood and the Quest for Support in America with Stephanie Defilippis

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