22. Obligation & Reparenting in Relationships

Fawners, Fixers, White Knights, and Chronic Caregivers... gather round. How about those early-childhood patterns defining entire lifetimes, huh?

Today, let's talk about Filial Obligation and Anxiety - the pressures put on us to always serve, soothe, and surrender to our family's needs. Especially, with "PTSD Parents" of a certain age or declining health status. Nothing like ripping open (purposely forgotten) childhood wounds. AND, let's not fail to mention the ways those behavioral relationship learnings are generalized onto pretty much every important social contact in our lives. 

AKA - researchin the ways we run ourselves ragged for others, feel trapped and powerless, and the rest is a mental health crisis waiting to happen.

IN a caregiving situation of your own? Reseach says, don't do it alone or isolate under pressure. Find support and save some energy for your Self before you run the well dry. 

Find Fuckers like YOU in the Blanket Fort private community. And be sure to join our new community collaborative episodes as the research shows tumble trauma topics down the pipeline! Your new penpals are waiting.

Hit t-mfrs.com to find out more about our group of trauma recoverers. Or jump straight into the Discord community at the "Get Connected" level on Patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers.

Organization worth yer time: Free99Fridge

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Free99Fridge, like many other community fridges, operates on what is known as a mutual aid model. This differs from a traditional charity with the goal of empowerment. For the people. From the people."

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