When I first quit drinking I was very nervous about how people would respond to me. I worried about what to say to them. In this episode I will give you my advice for answering this question, both what I recommend doing and what I recommend not doing. I will also share 5 examples of when people gave me a hard time about not drinking and how I navigated it.
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Q2: How to Answer “Why Aren’t You Drinking?”

I promise you, you're not a weak-willed loser with no self-control. There are a lot of reasons why we can't control the way we drink- trauma, lack of coping skills, stress, anger, anxiety. Plus, as you'll learn in my podcast, alcohol takes advantage of our vulnerabilities to hook us, then it changes our brains to keep us stuck and reliant on alcohol. It's not about willpower. In the Sober Powered Podcast, I use science, psychology, and compassion to help you understand why you use self-destructive coping skills like alcohol, what happens in the brain to make drinking spiral out of control and prevent us from drinking in moderation, and how to develop the coping skills and emotional sobriety you need to quit drinking and stay sober.
About me: I quit drinking on November 9, 2019. I have a master's in biology and I'm a certified anger management specialist and crisis intervention specialist.
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Alcohol is marketed as a key to relaxation and fun. Ads and movies show us that alcohol is essential for social bonding and carefree moments, signaling us that a drink in hand is your ticket to fun and connection. Then when we start to notice our drinking is problematic and think about how we may have to get sober, one of the first things we panic about is how this means the fun is over. In this episode, I’ll explain why alcohol isn’t fun and 5 ways you can redefine fun after quitting drinking.
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E170: why the first year of sobriety is so hard
E217: Warm Weather: 3 Reasons We Think Alcohol is Required
E213: Self-Care is NOT Temporarily Turning Off Your Brain


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E221: 5 Ways to Redefine Fun Without Alcohol

The hippocampus is an important part of the brain, which is unfortunately very vulnerable to alcohol. It is most well-known for its role in blackouts, but damage to the hippocampus from our drinking can cause problems with everyday memory too, like telling someone the same story over and over again. The hippocampus has a lesser known, but very important role in learned associations. Associations are cues in the environment that help us predict an alcohol reward, so they cause cravings to drink. In this episode, I’ll describe how alcohol damages the hippocampus to cause blackouts, impair our memory, and form associations with alcohol. You’ll learn how this damage persists in sobriety and how long it takes for the hippocampus to heal.

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E211: the anticipation of a drink
E218: in the moment craving vs constant craving
E196: how the brain recovers in sobriety
E210: the brain heals a lot in 90 days (unless you relapse)
E191: going back and forth makes your cravings stronger


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E220: The Hippocampus and Alcohol: Blackouts, Memory Deficits, and Learned Associations

Our lifestyle can make our sobriety easier or harder. When we quit drinking, things have to change. We can’t keep coming home to the same old routine but just not drink. In this episode I’ll explain 7 lifestyle changes that you can make overtime to support your sobriety and why these changes are helpful. 
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E213: self-care is NOT temporarily turning off your brain

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E219: 7 Healthy Lifestyle Changes to Support Your Sobriety

There are 2 types of alcohol cravings that you may experience as you quit drinking: sudden, in the moment cravings or constant all day cravings. In this episode, you’ll learn about both types and 3 reasons we crave alcohol. I’ve experienced both types of cravings so I will share my experience and help you understand why you keep craving alcohol and where to get started in minimizing your cravings.
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E191: going back and forth makes your cravings stronger
E205: kindling in alcohol withdrawal
E128: why cravings are so powerful (attentional bias)
E216: 4 types of impulsivity
E211: the anticipation of the drink
E206: HALT: hungry, angry, lonely, tired
E203: why you still want alcohol even when you hate it

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E218: In the Moment Craving vs Constant Craving

The weather is getting warmer and we start thinking about how everyone’s going to be on the porch or at restaurants drinking, how nice that looks, and how left out we feel for not participating. It’s normal to see other people drinking and wish you could do it too. In this episode we’ll talk about 3 reasons why we think alcohol is required when the weather is warm. It’s a mix of science, conditioning, awareness and being honest with ourselves. 
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E179 we have to grieve alcohol (its ok to miss it)
E211 the anticipation

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Q2: How to Answer “Why Aren’t You Drinking?”

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