42: Self-Esteem Sucks. You Need Self-Compassion with Dr Kristin Neff

I’m excited about today’s guest because she has had a huge influence on me. I can confidently say that finding her research on self-compassion was a turning point in my healing journey. Do you need more self-compassion? Join us to learn more!

Dr. Kristin Neff is a renowned psychologist, self-care researcher, and author. Her work has had a profound impact on the field of psychology and has helped countless people cultivate self-acceptance and resilience. 

Show Highlights:

How self-compassion became Dr. Kristin’s main area of research

Understanding self-esteem vs. self-compassion

The three components of self-compassion: mindfulness, common humanity, and self-kindness

How self-esteem creates comparison and social disconnection by being conditional and unstable

How self-compassion gives the gift of authenticity

The difference between fierce self-compassion and tender self-compassion

How self-compassion helps us get past our shame

Why self-compassion doesn’t mean indulgence

Pathways and blocks to self-compassion

The connection between self-compassion and psychological functioning

How self-compassion helps when we fail and make mistakes

Why the goal of practicing self-compassion is to be simply a compassionate mess who is completely human

Why the practice of self-compassion has to start small with baby steps of warmth and support (What would you say to a friend?)

A look at Dr. Kristin’s latest book, Fierce Self-Compassion

How anger fits into self-compassion

Resources and Links:

Connect with Dr. Kristin and find many helpful resources: Website

Connect with KC: TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook

Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning

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