Today on the podcast, I'm talking with my friend and teaching pastor at Crossroads Church in Cincinnati, Alli Patterson, about her new book, How to Stay Standing. 

In this powerful and practical episode, Alli shares her own story of hitting rock bottom when the scaffolding of her life collapsed, and how she rebuilt the foundation from the ground up. We discuss the following:

1. How tiny decisions can lead us toward devastating realities
2. What kept Alli from making eye contact for over 6 months
3. How shame sneaks in, even when you know you’ve been forgiven by God
4. The power of telling your story in safe places
5. 3 practical ways to build a strong foundation
6. How to take risks on God

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Episode 38: Taking a Risk on God—How to Stay Standing with Alli Patterson

Join therapist and author, Dr. Alison Cook, as she guides you through some of your toughest challenges with wisdom, kindness, and grace. Together with friends and experts we'll unpack the best of psychology from a faith-based perspective. You’ll discover how to break free from painful patterns, mend your past, and discover what brings out the best of you.

Health & Fitness

Mental Health

Are you ever tempted to lie to spare someone’s feelings or avoid conflict?
You're not alone. Research shows that most people tell at least one lie every day, even though honesty significantly benefits our relationships and mental health. In today’s episode, we explore the science and Biblical wisdom behind lying, and I'll share practical strategies to foster more honesty (spoiler alert: it involves setting boundaries!) in your relationships.
Here's what we cover:

How often do we lie?

4 mental health benefits of honesty

4 types of lies we tell

The link between lying and boundaries

3 reasons why we lie

The most important question to ask yourself about the lies you tell


Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.
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Related Episodes:
Episode 103: Name, Frame, and Brave Gossip
Episode 104: Overcoming the Fear of Vulnerability—Strategies to Stop Feeling Alone and Build Meaningful Connections
Episode 20: Making Peace with Yourself (& Facing Your Fear of Disappointing Other People)
Episode 72: Overcoming Failure, Handling Adversity, and Telling Yourself the Truth
Music by Andy Luiten
Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
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Episode 105: 4 Lies We Tell, the Mental Health Benefits of Honesty, & How to Stop Lying In Your Relationships

Have you ever felt isolated because you can't open up to others?
Do you worry that showing vulnerability might lead to more hurt?
You are in for such a special treat today. This is such an honest, incredibly real conversation about the risks of vulnerability, the hurts that come from letting others in AND the incredible opportunities for intimacy, connection, and healing when we do.
My dear friends, Kathy Tuan-MacLean and Tara Edelschick, authors of the new Bible study experience, "Moms at the Well," surveyed over seven hundred moms and discovered most women struggle with worry, anger, comparison, escapism, a desire for control, and heartbreak. Yet most women feel alone in these struggles. 
If you've ever felt lonely or skeptical about finding community with other women, this episode is for you. Here's what we cover:
* The dissonance we feel about vulnerability (2:21)
* How 1 marriage crisis launched a 20 year small group (11:28)
* 2 essential ingredients to safeguard trust (16:00)
* How they dealt with gossip (21:50)
* Strategies for dealing with hurt feelings, ruptures & repair (24:38)
* One shocking result from their survey (34:43)
* The strategy Alison used to find a friend when lonely (43:35)
* The one thing that kills group trust (48:43)
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Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here
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Related Episodes:
Episode 103: Name, Frame, and Brave Gossip
Episode 85: The Goal of a Healthy Family & 6 Roles We Take On In Dysfunction
Episode 66: The Truth About Anxiety & How to Become a Worry Free Parent with Sissy Goff
Episode 65: Vulnerability, Parenting, and Letting Go of Control—Inside A Guy’s Perspective With Our Friends From Dadville
Music by Andy Luiten
Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
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Episode 104: Overcoming the Fear of Vulnerability—Strategies to Stop Feeling Alone and Build Meaningful Connections

We don't want to gossip, but most of us do it. What if gossip actually plays a deeper role in our lives and relationships? 
So often in life we bump into "grey areas," areas that can stir up dissonance inside of us. We hold certain beliefs or values, yet we find ourselves acting in ways that are contrary to those values.
In this series, we're exploring some of these areas that can bring up dissonance inside. Our focus today is gossip. I explore the problems with gossip, as well as some of the surprising research on how it can be constructive. By examining both the positive and negative aspects of gossip, you'll feel empowered to name, frame, and brave a healthier understanding of gossip in your life and relationships.

Why gossip is a gray area (3:09)

What the Bible says about gossip (6:42)

What psychology research says about gossip (12:46)

6 motivations behind gossip (13:43)

Constructive vs. destructive forms of gossip (21:40)

How to Name, Frame, and Brave gossip in your own life (29:17)


Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.
Thanks to our sponsors:
Go to www.organifi.com/bestofyou today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.
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Related Episodes:
Episode 102: I Shouldn’t Feel Conflicted About God—How to Name, Frame, and Brave Complicated Emotions About Faith & God
Episode 96: Signs of Emotional Immaturity & How to Bring Emotional Health Into Your Relationships
Episode 89: When A Relationship Has to Change—How to Tolerate Discomfort, Face an Attachment Void, & Resource Yourself
Music by Andy Luiten
Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik
While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.
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Episode 103: Name, Frame, and Brave Gossip

Do you ever feel distant from God?
Do you struggle with conflicting emotions or unanswered questions that make it hard to feel God's presence in your life?
Today's episode brings the 

Episode 102: I Shouldn’t Feel Conflicted About God—How to Name, Frame, and Brave Complicated Emotions About Faith & God

Happy Book Launch day! 
Today I Shouldn't Feel This Way is out in the world AND it's the two-year anniversary of The Best of You Podcast . To celebrate, I asked my friend, fellow therapist, and author, Aundi Kolber, to join me for a special bonus episode! 
Join us as we share insights into why we started writing, what we keep private vs. what we share publicly, and how to navigate the publishing industry.
Pick up your copy of I Shouldn't Feel This Way today!
Get Aundi's Strong Like Water Guided Journey today!
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Episode 38: Taking a Risk on God—How to Stay Standing with Alli Patterson

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