Themes: Relationships, Dating, Red Flags, Infidelity, Forgiveness, Attachment Theory
Summary:
I’m super pumped to be joined by Jeff Guenther, aka @therapyjeff for today’s episode. I’ve been watching Jeff distill complex information and break down relational challenges online in such a consumable and digestible way for some time now, so to sit down with him today and go deeper into allllll things romantic relationships is an honour.
Jeff Guenther is a licensed professional counselor in Portland, Oregon. He’s been a therapist since 2005 and his practice focuses on both couples and individuals. These days, he spends most of his spare time making one-minute videos for TikTok and Instagram, and more in-depth content on Patreon. Consider following him on all the platforms for relationship advice, tips, pep talks and other resources to maximize your mental health.
Discover:

Green flags to look for on a date

Why knowing your own red flags is essential for a healthy relationship

The best time to ask “what are we?”

When it’s okay (and can actually benefit your relationship) to crush on someone else

Red flags to watch for when you crush on someone else

00:00 Intro
01:48 Starting an online presence
05:05 Back to (relationship) basics
06:08 Blaming your parents
08:00 Do you need to forgive in order to heal?
11:30 Stop talking shit about your ex
13:15 Know your own red flags
16:44 Assuming good intent
20:20 Asking for reassurance
26:56 Actions vs. words
30:45 Having needs is sexy
35:21 Anxious/avoidant attachment
37:54 Having a crush on someone while in a relationship
51:07 Red flags when you have a crush
53:10 Thinking relationally
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Website | therapyjeff.com & therapyden.com


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Patreon | @therapyjeff


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#229: The Best Relationship Advice You'll Hear Today with Jeff Guenther

Jam out with Mark Groves as he takes you on a journey to explore the juiciest parts of the human experience and what it’s like to live authentically in the modern world. You’re invited to lay down what you were taught and explore new viewpoints and discoveries in mental and emotional health, physical health and wellness, relationships and the human connection, and hot topics of the world. Open your ears and your eyes to The Mark Groves Podcast.

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In this episode, I welcome Meg Jay – a developmental clinical psychologist specializing in twentysomethings – who helps tackle the question: are your 20s the best years of your life? Together, we explore the complexities of navigating our 20s and the misconceptions about this period. Meg sheds light on societal pressures, mental health hurdles, and the crucial need for tailored support for individuals in their 20s. She also discusses the power of empathy over stigmas, touches on generational shifts in work culture, and addresses the common obstacles faced by twentysomethings. Whether you're currently in this age group or not, this conversation offers invaluable insights into the support we all require during this pivotal decade of life.

Meg Jay, PhD, is the author of The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age, Supernormal: The Secret World of the Family Hero and the cult classic The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now. Her books have been translated into more than a dozen languages and her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review and on NPR, BBC and—maybe most important for her audience—TikTok. Her TED talk “Why 30 Is Not the New 20” is among the most watched to date. Dr. Jay earned a doctorate in clinical psychology, and in gender studies, from the University of California, Berkeley. She is on faculty at the University of Virginia and maintains a private practice in Charlottesville. 

—Meg’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmegjay/
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If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/markgroves

Themes: Authenticity, Belonging, Relationships, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Transformation, Career, Mental Health, Purpose, Empathy, Personal Growth, Twenties

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#366: Why You Don’t Want to Peak in Your 20s with Meg Jay

This special episode is a sneak peek of Liberated Love's audiobook. After each chapter, Kylie and I have recorded special bonus conversations where we dive deeper into the content and our personal journeys. Today’s episode is a preview of the discussion we have about Chapter Four called Getting Right with Reality. Want to listen to more of these conversations? Get the audiobook here: http://createthelove.com/liberatedlove

—Get My New Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: http://createthelove.com/liberatedlove
—Get the Replay of our Liberated Life Event! Liberated Life - Learn How to Live and Love on (Y)our Terms: http://createthelove.com/liberated 

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Themes: Authenticity, Belonging, Breakups, Relationships, Boundaries, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Codependency, Transformation, Conflict, Grief, Liberated Love, Book, Freedom, Patterns, Self-Awareness, Personal Growth

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#365: Embracing Reality: The Way to Transform Your Life & Relationships

In this episode, I'm joined by Matthew Hussey, a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and coach specializing in confidence and relational intelligence. Matthew discusses the transformative power of authenticity and vulnerability – highlighting how personal struggles can deepen empathy and strengthen interpersonal connections. He shares insights from his own journey, including battles with chronic pain and the pursuit of happiness. Our conversation dives into themes of self-acceptance, inner peace, and reframing perspectives to lead a more fulfilling life. We also explore strategies for managing emotional and physical pain, transitioning from victimhood to proactive resilience. Join us for this empowering discussion, where we learn to find contentment, navigate emotions effectively, and cultivate self-compassion for healthier relationships and resilience in life's challenges.

Matthew Hussey’s YouTube channel is number one in the world for love life advice, with over half a billion views. He writes a weekly newsletter and is the host of the podcast Love Life With Matthew Hus­sey. Hussey provides monthly coaching to the members of his private community at LoveLifeClub.com. Over the past fifteen years, his proven approach has inspired millions through authentic, insightful, and practical advice that not only enables them to find love but also feel confident and in control of their own happiness. He lives in Los Angeles.

—Matthew’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey
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—Matthew’s Book - Love Life: https://matthewhussey.com/lovelifebook-announce/
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If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/markgroves

Themes: Authenticity, Belonging, Breakups, Relationships, Boundaries, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Dating, Transformation, Conflict, Career, Mental Health, Purpose, Grief, personal growth, vulnerability, self-acceptance, self-compassion

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#364: Heal Your Deepest Pain & Live Happily No Matter What w/ Matthew Hussey

﻿In this episode, I discuss the vital role of repairing ruptures in relationships – diving into the significance of mutual understanding, empathy, and consistent repair as foundational elements for building trust and deep emotional connections. I talk about the importance of addressing unresolved issues early on to prevent lingering negativity and nurture intimacy. I also explore the challenges in modeling repair, the barriers to genuine apologies, and the valuable insights gained through reflecting on past experiences. Join me in this conversation as we prioritize repair over ego, embrace love in our lives more deeply, and co-create a culture of grace for stronger, healthier relationships.

—Get My New Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: http://createthelove.com/liberatedlove
—Get the Replay of our Liberated Life Event | Liberated Life - Learn How to Live and Love on (Y)our Terms: http://createthelove.com/liberated

For updates and more info on The Big Delete (up until June 1st):
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If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions, go to my Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/markgroves

Themes: Relationships, Breakups, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Codependency, Infidelity, Dating, Transformation, Conflict, Emotional Health, Grief, Repairing Ruptures, Empathy, Intimacy, Grace, Apology, Healing, Relational Repair

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#363: Relationship Repair: Navigating Through Conflict

﻿In this episode, I welcome Violet Benson back to the podcast. We dive into the transformative process of shadow work and the impact of confronting grief. In order to help understand how past experiences have shaped our present behaviors, Violet speaks about the significance of understanding our personal experiences of childhood trauma and the coping mechanisms we’ve developed. She also discusses the power of self-expression, boundaries, and the channeling of emotions into constructive actions. Violet encourages us to embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth – sharing the tool of shadow work as a means of healing past wounds, enhancing emotional intelligence, and cultivating fulfilling relationships with oneself and others. Join us for this enlightening conversation that invites honesty forward and deepens our connections within.

Violet Benson, comedian, motivational speaker, creator of Daddy Issues and podcast host of the largest self love podcast and movement for women. Known for her solo episodes and amazing guests, You can catch new episodes of Almost Adulting, every Tuesday and Thursday on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube.

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—Violet’s Meme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/
—Violet’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissues
—Violet’s Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7IY1Gjc1uktmDCmNLA0HXo

If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/markgroves

Themes: Authenticity, Belonging, Relationships, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Transformation, Conflict, Career, Mental Health, Shadow Work, Grief, Trauma, Self-Expression, Emotional Health, Healing, Personal Growth, Boundaries, Coping Mechanisms

﻿This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth: Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com

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#229: The Best Relationship Advice You'll Hear Today with Jeff Guenther

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