Do you find yourself being overly self-critical when someone else's advice just doesn't work for you?
I've read, listened to and watched thousands of pieces of self help content over the years, and for a long time I thought that there was something wrong with me when I failed to incorporate someone else's advice into my life. I would blame a lack of discipline, focus, grit, or consistency as the reasons why I never made it past day two on someone else's stellar self help routine.
That was until I realized an important truth: their self help is not my self help.
What works for others may not (actually, probably will not) work for you.
In today's episode I'm giving you one huge piece of advice as you prepare to jump into the New Year that will help you to have a more joyful and successful year.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE
Why Are Self-Help Books Not So Helpful After All?

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The Big Self Help Mistake I Used To Make (Don't Fall For It In 2021...And Beyond!) (HIA Classic)

Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!

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What do you do when your life feels out of control?
Whether it’s a single area of your life, or everywhere all at once, when things feel out of control it can be debilitating. 
I’ve been there and I know the feeling of helplessness and frustration that comes as a result. 
However, you don’t have to stay there! There are simple things that you can do that are entirely effective at putting you back in the driver’s seat of your life. 
In today’s episode I’m sharing with you 2 simple ways to regain control over your life, feel like you have more stability, and to get your sense of autonomy back. 

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Is Your Life Feeling Out Of Control? Here Are 2 Simple Ways To Get Your Sense Of Stability Back

What morning habits do all great leaders and people who are doing BIG things in life have in common?
(And no, it’s not meditation or cold showers!)
They all start their day off by building proactive momentum. 
Not sure what that means? No worries!
In today’s episode I’m explaining the concept of proactive momentum and I’m helping you break the habits that are driving your stress, frustration and burnout. 

STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY? 
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FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
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All Great Leaders Make Time To Do This ONE THING In The Morning (Are You?)

Do you know why affirmations, self help and success books and “positive talk” just don't work for many people?
It has nothing to do with those things being ineffective, and everything to do with the emotional state a person is in when they attempt to connect with those things. 
In today’s episode I’m breaking down exactly how this all works and helping you to unlock the true reason why you keep creating the same outcomes despite desiring new results. 

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Power vs Force by David R. Hawkins

Awareness Suite: Day 1


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Here’s Why Affirmations Won’t Work For You

What does living a balanced life mean to you? 
Similarly, how do you define health and fitness? And how do your perceptions of these concepts impact your overall wellbeing?
In this episode I'm talking about how you can view the idea of "balance" in a way that doesn't leave you feeling defeated and frustrated. I'm here to present to you an idea of how you can balance out your health and fitness in a way that's sustainable and holistic.

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How To Balance Out Your Health And Fitness In A Holistic and Sustainable Way (HIA Classic)

What shame are you hiding?
Fellas, this episode is for you.
As a man, I've carried with me different types of shame through my life that have had a big impact on how I see the world and operate in it. I learned early on that burying my shame and pretending it wasn't there was the safest way for me to operate.
The truth is, it's not.
And for me, it took years of living in denial and robbing myself of true joy and fulfillment, that finally helped me see that.
In today's episode we're tackling a topic that lives within many men -- shame. I'm pulling from various sources here to help you understand shame, watch how it plays out in the lives of men like you, and see how other men are choosing to face it.
My intention with this episode is that it inspires you to look into those dark corners of yourself where you have been hiding your shame, and finally choose to bring it out into the light.
Do you want some support or coaching on overcoming your shame? Email me and take the next step towards eliminating shame from your life - matthew@matthewbivens.com.

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Institute Of OM - https://instituteofom.com/


Article "Shame: The Core Issue For Many Men - https://menscenter.org/shame/


Will Smith Youtube series "Best Shape Of My Life", Episode 2: My Secret Shame -

https://youtu.be/ZvYPIJT6JpM

Will Smith Youtube series "Best Shape Of My Life", Episode 4: I'm Sorry Mama -


 https://youtu.be/B2TlsHdpY_4


The Dad Edge Podcast interview with Lewis Howes - https://thedadedge.com/lewis-howes/



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FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY?
Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent
https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/

WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE?
Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life!
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The Big Self Help Mistake I Used To Make (Don't Fall For It In 2021...And Beyond!) (HIA Classic)

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