Are you supervising your brain? Do you even know how? Kara Loewentheil, J.D., Master Certified Coach, and host of the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast is here to help. On this week’s episode, we explore topics of anxiety, particularly in the bedroom, and how to navigate through them. Kara explains how she worked to re-train her thoughts and we dive into how socialization impacts how we think. 
 In Updates, Erica tries to plan a first date - but will she get any help?? Meanwhile, Ali closes the door on The Stout, postpones with Speed Racer, and has a new guy on the scene. 
 Where to find Kara: On Instagram @karaloewentheil, on TikTok @karaloewentheil, at www.unfuckyourbrain.com. 
 Timestamps: Kara joins us at around minute 32. 
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139. The UnF*ck Your Brain One ft. Kara Loewentheil

From her TikTok and Instagram, @findingmrheight, dating coach Ali Jackson is joined by friend &amp; stand up comedian Erica Spera (@spericaa) to bring you their positive and practical dating approach in podcast form. Their straightforward attitudes, often with some humor on the side, will help you tackle modern dating issues while building confidence and staying authentic to your true self. Follow along @findingmrheight for even more content!

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Erica & Ali welcome feminist dating coach and debut author Lily Womble to the pod this week! We chat about bringing more joy into your dating life, how to narrow down your search to what Lily calls essences-based preferences, and how to reframe your mindset when you feel like you’re “too much.” Order Lily’s book, Thank You More Please, out June 11th! 
 In Updates, we have a special Patreon teaser that Ali recorded with Talia Koren (@ Dating.intentionally) while Erica was on vacation. You’ll hear some tea that never aired on the main pod as Ali awaits Skyline’s return to NYC. 
 Where to find Lily: On Instagram @datebrazen, on TikTok @datebrazen, at www.datebrazen.com and on The Date Brazen Podcast. 
 Timestamps: Lily joins us at around minute 31. 
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173. The Date Brazen One ft. Lily Womble

It’s a slightly new Hot Topics format, with both listener questions and a couple AITA situations. First, Ali & Erica debate if a man is the a-hole for not helping his wife carry things in from the car and whether a women is the a-hole for not giving up her comfy coffee shop chair. Then, we answer two listener questions: one listener who is concerned about her date’s grooming choices and one who is worried about potential dating prospects in her smaller city. 
 In Updates, a psychic reading prompts Erica’s family to try to set her up while Ali continues to await Skyline’s return. 
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172. The Fourteenth Hot Topics One

We asked for feedback and you delivered!! This week, Ali & Erica are going through the biggest takeaways and themes from our podcast survey and previewing what’s to come for the future of the pod. We dig deep on our own opportunities for growth, taking into account both what the listeners shared as well as our own reflections. It’s a vulnerable conversation that we can’t wait for you to hear! 
 In Updates, Ali looks forward to Skyline’s (early) return and Erica officially declares the opening of Ruthless Summer. 
 Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 20. 
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171. The FMH Feedback One

Back by popular demand, Therapy Jeff (aka Jeff Guenther, LPC) is on the pod answering your burning questions. We dive into topics such as: what does it mean if I attract emotionally available people? How to approach pre-marital counseling? What does it mean to “settle” and how do I know if I am? As always, Jeff’s advice is on point with some laughs along the way. 
 But first, Erica’s car repair flirtation continues (on the phone!!) and Ali has an excellent third date with Skyline before he leaves town. 
 Where to find Jeff: On Instagram @therapyjeff, on TikTok @therapyjeff and on his website www.therapyjeff.com. Looking for the therapist-finding resource Jeff mentions? Check out www.therapyden.com. 
 Timestamps: Jeff joins us at around minute 42. 
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170. The Second Therapy Jeff One ft. Jeff Guenther

Erica & Ali are getting deep this week, going through all sorts of questions you can use to connect on first dates, in early dating, or even when already in a relationship. We’re answering our favorite ones plus listing a few you probably shouldn’t ask. Let’s start having some more interesting conversations! 
 In Updates, Erica meets a new man (or is it an automated text system?) and Ali makes a decision about one of her second dates this week. 
 Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 39. 
 NYC Live show on Wed May 15th!! Buy tickets at findingmrheight.com/live. 
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139. The UnF*ck Your Brain One ft. Kara Loewentheil

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