126. The Unseen Load of the Default Parent

+ how to make it lighter // If you have a partner in parenting, chances are you two divide the labor—but is it equal? How much of the small details (making the appointments, soothing the hurts and bad dreams, keeping up with bake sales and family calendars) fall to one parent? And did you decide on that labor, or did it kind of just . . . fall to one parent? Emily shares research and her own experience in how the unseen load of being the default parent has affected her life, her motherhood, and her partnership. And, most importantly, she shares how partners can work together to create a shared vision for their family that allows every family member to flourish—including how to relieve some burden from the parent who's been bearing the brunt of the load.   Thanks to our episode sponsors! BETTERHELP | Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/simplified  GREEN CHEF | Get 50% off (plus FREE shipping!) with code SIMPLIFIED50 at http://greenchef.com/simplified50    * * * GET Audio Episodes Ad Free + Early Access to New Episodes https://apple.co/3ICMUmk READ the Show Notes https://emilyley.com/podcast    SHOP Simplified Planners & Products! https://emilyley.com    SUBSCRIBE  to Emily’s Substack! https://emilyley.substack.com/    GET Emily’s New Book! https://emilyleybooks.com/sure-as-the-sunrise    * * * SUBSCRIBE to The Simplified Podcast! Apple Podcasts | http://bit.ly/Simplified-Apple  Spotify | http://bit.ly/Simplified-Spotify  Stitcher | http://bit.ly/Simplified-Stitcher  YouTube |http://bit.ly/Simplified-YouTube    * * * Let’s Be FRIENDS! Simplified: Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/simplified/  Facebook |https://www.facebook.com/simplified  Twitter | https://www.twitter.com/emilyley/  Pinterest | https://www.pinterest.com/emilyley/  YouTube | http://bit.ly/Simplified-YouTube    Emily Ley:  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/EmilyLey/  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/emilyley    Our Co-Hosts! Laura Kashner | https://www.instagram.com/laurakashner/  Liz Holtzman | https://www.instagram.com/lizmholtzman/