074: The World’s Best in Modern Pick Up with RSD Derek

RSD Derek is one of the best dating coaches of all times, and he returns to the podcast this week to hang with Connor. They talk about the difference between “pick up” tricks and real coaching, how to set goals and actually see results, ways to cure approach anxiety, his Boot Camp, and why you’ll be turning down the best dating opportunity you’ve ever had when you work with him.   Key Takeaways: [1:31] RSD Derek is the most requested dating coach out there and he teaches live programs for all types of guys all over the world. They are already the type of guy a girl would like to know, but just need to fine tune their communication skills rather than convince a girl to spend time with them. [4:52] Being good at game is about being a good economist, psychologist, and communicator. [6:08] Just like working on physique, results come when you have training, commitment, and discipline. [10:47] Connor’s Cheat Code to get dramatically better at game: don’t have sex or jerk off for a week. RSD even has a rule that you should only masturbate when you are in a relationship. [15:52] Plan your logistics to be near the epic place. It’s crazy how much it impacts your success rate. [20:52] Stop with the excuses. Go make some more money, and realize that you can make a lifestyle choice to have more abundance. [25:09] Pick two goals you have right now, and spend a few hours each day focusing on those. [32:58] After RSD Derek’s Boot Camps, the guys usually get the opportunity to date the best girls in about three to six weeks. It takes about a year to gain confidence and rewire the brain to live in a place of abundance instead of fear or ego. [37:16] Another RSD Derek Rule: If you don’t have five pretty girls contacting you for sex, you aren’t ready to get into a relationship yet. [38:40] Leading with money will harm your results. It’s there to help you solve logistics, not to try and get girls to like you. [47:02] RSD Derek breaks down why the girls in Vegas are hoping to meet an awesome dude, but it’s on you to convey to her that you are that guy. [56:22] It’s evolutionarily ingrained in our brain to feel anxiety when hitting on the hottest girl. We are tribal creatures and don’t want to ruffle feathers or get laughed at. [61:12] It should be your goal to both make a woman’s life better, and also determine if her value system matches yours.   Mentioned in This Episode: Connor Murphy Talks YouTube page: @ConnorMurphyTalks Brandon’s YouTube page: @HighLifeWorkOut @KingKeto — Brandon Carter on Instagram @ConnorMurphyOfficial RSD Derek @RSD Derek