So you’ve been dumped, or maybe you dumped someone. You’re scrolling through social media, or maybe a well meaning friend mentions, that your ex has moved on. Cue the SPIRAL. “How Could They?!”Already?!!!” “Did our time together mean NOTHING?”
I’m giving you ten steps to keep yourself in check when your ex moves on before you including how to not let it derail you, keep your perspective, and quit the feeling that they “owe” you something.
First up however, we’re diving into a SCIENCE FACT:
GHB – the pharmacology of the date rape drug explained.
LINKS

Listen to my Brain Fact about Heroin Mechanism of Action in EP 141 ‘Do this for 30 days and see what happens for you’ https://pod.fo/e/1f82e7 .
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Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos 
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 
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329. What to do when Your Ex Moves on First

Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez.
On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and pop pscyhology: your pep talk and mindset hacks are all here. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak.
And on Thursdays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email info@dyfmpod.com to submit your questions.
Plus I've got a new book coming out in September. Pre order your copy of How to Chase Change - exclusively an audiobook - at https://bit.ly/44xwszR . 

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How do you stop caring about what people think of you? How can you let go of the things that keep you from living the life you want? This question is so crippling for so many of us, but there IS a simple solution. In this episode we’ll learn how to deal with these feelings in a way that don't consume you and stop you from going on with your life.
Plus I'll give you my 7 steps to overcome falling into the trap of caring what people think about you!
BUT FIRST!
BRAIN FACT:
Central Sensitization and chronic pain: the phenomena when there is an enhancement in the function of the neurons and the circuits that are involved in nociceptive pathways causing an echo or remembered pain. It happens because of an increase in membrane excitability and synaptic efficacy. It’s a great example for how neuroplasticity works in a negative way and has been linked to chronic pain.
LINKS

Read about Central Sensitization and Chronic Pain https://bit.ly/centralsensitization Latremoliere A, Woolf CJ. Central sensitization: a generator of pain hypersensitivity by central neural plasticity. J Pain. 2009 Sep;10(9):895-926. doi: 10.1016/j.jpain.2009.06.012. PMID: 19712899; PMCID: PMC2750819.   
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CREDITS.  
Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos 
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 
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334. How to REALLY stop caring about what people think of you

My brand-new audiobook HOW TO CHASE CHANGE is the ultimate guide to shifting your mindset to become your best self. This 30-day program covers everything from turning aspirational goals into action and increasing self-confidence to overcoming heartbreak, eliminating negative self-talk, and so much more.
LINKS

Pre-order my audiobook ‘How to Chase Change’, on sale September 10th https://bit.ly/44xwszR .
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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos 
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 
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333. Big Announcement: My new audiobook HOW TO CHASE CHANGE!

Do you let the outside world take control of your happiness? Does it feel like you’re always at the mercy of what’s happening outside your control? In this episode we’ll find out how to become more intentional and less passive when it comes to creating your own Happiness.
BRAIN FACT:
HIIT – High Intensity Interval Training, cortisol and over-training syndrome.
Read about Overtraining Syndrome here https://bit.ly/overtraining-syndrome .
LINKS

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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos 
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 
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332. How to be Intentional and Not Passive with Your Life and Your Happiness

Beans I'm taking a much-needed long weekend so I thought it was a perfect time to bring up one of my most listened to episodes. It's a perfect place to start if you're new to the pod and a great reset if you're a long-time bean. I'm diving into discipline, and how reframing how you view it could be the ticket to a more free and enjoyable life.
LINKS

Listen to Ep  Being Better: Do These 4 Things for 30 Days and Watch Your Life Change at https://pod.fo/e/2130c1 .
Listen to Ep 66. Top 4 Discipline Hacks and More Brain Science at https://pod.fo/e/2043ff .


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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos 
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 
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331. ENCORE: Discipline, Freedom, And Living Your Best Life

First up I’m going through your ICKS – you loved when I did it in episode 322 so thought I’d pick more of your hilarious icks to read out.
And then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions – this week it’s all about heartbreak in long term relationships.

How do you handle a relationship when your mind is telling you to run but your heart says otherwise? Me and my boyfriend are in our 20s and have been dating for a few years long distance.  Early on there was some lying and deception and we broke up, but I gave him a second chance as I thought he needed time to adjust from his single life to being coupled. I thought we were in a loving truthful relationship since then. But I have recently found out he has been texting 2 women. I feel it’s disrespectful, and my lack of trust from the previous lying has come back. He also follows Twitter pages with sexually explicit content. I’m a very trusting and open-minded person but I feel this relationship has made me insecure and untrusting particularly because we are long distance.
Blind or Blindsided: Last night my bf of 3 years came home from work and said we needed to talk and that this wasn’t working and he didn’t love me anymore. I didn’t see this coming at all. We recently opened a business together. We regularly have sex, said I love you, planned for the future, and last week got back from a holiday together. He said he hasn’t felt a connection for some time due to my negativity and that he said he wanted kids (I’m 41 and have had ovarian failure. We’ve gone through a round of IVF together). How was he able to completely blindside me without me realising anything was up – he has gone to a new place to live so he’s clearly had time to plan this without my picking up on it.

LINKS

If you want me to answer your question just email me at info@dyfmpod.com


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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos 
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 
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329. What to do when Your Ex Moves on First

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