Welcome back to another Language of Love Session! In this episode, I chat with a caller from Australia, Fatima, who is currently going through a tough divorce and grappling with a challenging relationship with her narcissistic mother. Fatima opens up about her struggles with codependency and anger regulation, which she believes are deeply rooted in her traumatic upbringing. I offer her guidance on setting clear boundaries with toxic individuals, including her mother, to protect her emotional well-being and create a healthier environment. Additionally, I discuss the importance of seeking therapy to address unresolved trauma, gain a deeper understanding of herself, and develop effective strategies for managing codependency and anger. 

We discuss:

How unresolved childhood trauma can affect an individual’s parenting style

The importance of self-preservation and creating distance from toxic individuals

The “splitting” behavior and manipulation tactics used by borderlines

How to use somatic experiencing for trauma recovery


Remember, if you're going through a difficult time, it's important to seek help and support. You don't have to face these challenges alone. Reach out to a therapist, counselor, or trusted friend who can provide guidance and a listening ear. You deserve to live a happy and fulfilling life, and with the right support, you can achieve it. I also recommend you check out Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Roots Become Toxic

Language of Love is a weekly podcast where Dr. Berman shares her compassionate, humorous, and no-nonsense advice: answering listener questions and interviewing thought leaders and experts on relevant topics. Dr. Berman is ready to help you create the fulfilling and passionate love life you deserve, regardless of your relationship status, gender, or sexual orientation. Are you ready to get started?

Society & Culture

Personal Journals

History

Philosophy

Places & Travel

Sexuality

Health

Relationships

Health & Fitness

In this episode of Language of Love, I am featuring another session from the Good Grief Day event, and this time we have speaker and author Anita Moorjani. Anita's story is nothing short of miraculous. She was grappling with end-stage cancer, her body riddled with tumors, and she was on the verge of what seemed like an inevitable end. But it was in this moment of extreme physical depletion that Anita experienced something extraordinary—a near-death experience that would change her life forever.

She also explores the significance of joy in our lives and the comforting idea that our departed loved ones are still with us in some form. During the Q&A segment, she offers her perspective on what the afterlife might hold for controversial figures, discussing the notion of personal growth beyond the traditional view of eternal punishment. 

We explore:

Cultural conditioning and societal expectations impacting Anita's illness

Anita's miraculous recovery and the importance of finding joy and uplifting energy

Communicating with deceased loved ones and the signs they send

Addressing the belief that grieving may keep loved ones trapped

The choice to operate from the highest version of oneself


Please remember to check Anita's website to learn more about her latest projects. Don't forget to grab a copy of her book "Dying to Be Me" for more insights. You can also connect with her on LinkedIn. As usual, you can visit my website for more amazing resources and courses.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Near-Death Experience Insights on Love and Being with Anita Moorjani

In this Language of Love Bite, we're going to dive deep into a topic that's both incredibly personal and universally relevant – the five common types of trauma and how they impact our love lives and relationships.

As a sex and relationship therapist, I've seen firsthand how trauma can really shake the foundation of our self-worth and trust. We're talking about sexual trauma, physical trauma, emotional trauma, and those gut-wrenching experiences of rejection, humiliation, abandonment, and betrayal. Each one of these can leave scars that might not be visible to the eye but can be felt deeply in the heart.

I want to walk you through how these traumas can hinder us, and how they can make us put up walls where we should be building bridges. It's about understanding that when we're hurt, our instincts tell us to protect ourselves, sometimes to the point where we might push away the things we desire most – connection, intimacy, and love.

But here's the thing – and this is so important – healing is possible. I can't stress enough the value of trauma-informed therapy. Techniques like somatic experiencing can be game-changers, helping us to reconnect with our bodies and process those deep-seated emotions that we've been carrying around.

If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. It's not a sign of weakness; it's a step towards recovery. And I want you to know that you're not alone in this. We're in it together, and I'm here to support you on your journey towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Remember to visit my website for tips on revitalizing your sex life: prioritize open communication, try the fantasy box, take my “Seven Days to Better Sex” course, and explore “Quantum Love.”


Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Hidden Impact of Trauma on Love and Relationships

Did you know that 50 million Americans have some form of dysregulated immune system? But here's the catch - you may not even realize that you are one of them. Perhaps you've been given a diagnosis that you don't fully understand or have been told that you have an autoimmune disorder. The truth is, it's not just a medical issue, it's also an emotional one.

In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm excited to be joined by Dr. Sara Gottfried, a Harvard-educated medical doctor, scientist, researcher, and author of four New York Times best-selling books. 

We dive into the connections between trauma, autoimmune diseases, and how our bodies keep everything in check. We are chatting about how trauma can throw our systems out of whack, messing with our immune system and sometimes leading to autoimmune issues. Dr. Gottfried is here to shed light on why catching these autoimmune diseases early is so crucial, especially when the signs can be pretty vague.

In this conversation, we break down:

The connection between trauma and dysregulation in the body

The pine system and its role in responding to trauma

Understanding autoimmune diseases and the immune system

Potential treatments for autoimmune conditions


To learn more about Dr. Gottfried's latest projects and to read her latest book, Hormone Cure, visit her website. Explore the connections between trauma, autoimmune diseases, and how our bodies keep everything in check.
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Impact of Trauma in our Body with Dr. Sara Gottfried

This Language of Love episode is a special one! I'm sharing another talk from my Good Grief Day event, and this time I’m featuring the incredibly gifted medium and author, Susan Grau. She has an extraordinary ability to connect with the other side, and she reached out to our audience members, delivering messages that are sure to touch the heart.

During the event, Susan brought comfort offering apologies, expressions of love, and even signs from their departed loved ones. They’re truly powerful moments, and you can feel the love reaching out from beyond. It's moments like these that remind us of the unbreakable bonds of love.

As we delve into these connections, I can't help but relate to the profound sense of grief that comes with losing someone we love. I've been there, and I understand how hard it is. But I also know the solace and closure that can come from feeling that connection to our loved ones who have passed on. It's a reminder that love transcends all, even death.

Be sure to check out my website for my online course, Good Grief: Healing from Loss with Love, for more guidance and support on your healing journey. And, remember to grab a copy of Susan’s book “Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons.” Happy reading!

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Most Heartwarming Messages from Beyond with Susan Grau

Have you ever imagined how you can achieve simultaneous orgasms with your partner? Many people find it challenging to experience this together. However, some techniques can be employed in your sex life to achieve this shared climax. 

In this episode of the Language of Love Bite, I dive into a subject that is often whispered about in the corners of our most private conversations: the art of achieving simultaneous orgasms with your partner. 

I explore:

How to achieve simultaneous orgasms with a partner

The importance of individual and mutual orgasms

The beauty of incorporating oral stimulation alongside self-stimulation

Significance of open communication and intuition during sexual exchanges

The stepwise approach to practicing simultaneous orgasms

The differences in time to reach orgasm for men and women


Don't forget to visit my website and explore the free Quantum Sex course. It will help you elevate your sexual response to new heights. 

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Roots Become Toxic

Download our free app to listen on your phone