I get so many questions about what to do when the check comes at the end of the date. The easy answer is, that whoever asks is who pays. However, it goes so much deeper when it comes to heterosexual dating. In this episode, I deep dive into the reasons why women believe men should pay and why men are increasingly bitter about it. What we're experiencing now in dating is the growing pains of traditional courtship between men and women catching up with the progression towards gender equality (even though we're not fully there yet). Listen to hear what straight and queer folks had to say about the expectation of who pays on the first date.

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45. Who should pay on the first date and why?

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Maybe you've heard the advice "date multiple people," but you have no idea how it works, if it's even possible for you, or why you should try it in the first place. This is the episode for you! I'm breaking down exactly how to approach talking to multiple people and entertaining a handful of potential matches before committing to one person. This approach doesn't work for everyone, but it worked for me. It's worth trying if you tend to get attached quickly, can easily get dates and want to speed up the vetting process a bit, or want to try a different approach.
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75. How to date multiple people in the "talking stage" (before commitment)

If you're using dating apps or thinking about creating a dating app profile, this is the episode to listen to. Erika Ettin, the founder of A Little Nudge joined me on the podcast to talk all things dating apps. We get into what makes a good profile, how to swipe more effectively, what mistakes to avoid when using dating apps and so much more. At the end we play a game I made up called "Erika Explains" where she answers a bunch of your dating questions.
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About Erika Ettin:
Erika Ettin holds a BA in economics from Cornell University and an MBA from Georgetown University. Since launching her online dating consulting business, A Little Nudge, Erika has helped hundreds of clients in the United States and abroad find happiness. She currently lives in Washington, D.C.
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74. What to update on your dating app profile ASAP w/ Erika Ettin @alittlenudge

Do you feel like you're being harsh when you set boundaries with people you date? Are you scared of saying no? You're not alone. If you tend to be a people-pleaser, starting to set boundaries feels strange. Maybe you even feel a little guilt for having and setting boundaries. This episode breaks down what boundaries are, what they're not and why they're important. I talk about what boundaries are good to have in early dating and how to enforce them in a direct way (not a mean way).
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73. How to set boundaries in early dating & why they're important

Whether you're sober or sober-curious, this episode is packed with sage advice from Tawny Lara, the Sober Sexpert. Tawny shares insights from her sober dating journey that will open your eyes to how much alcohol permeates dating culture and what you can do to decide if how much you drink in your dating process is working for you or not. We get into how to date (and who to date) when you're sober, how to support someone who is sober if you're not and the best dry date ideas. We also discussed alcohol's role in sex and how to evaluate whether or not you're safely consuming alcohol in the context of physical intimacy.
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About Tawny Lara:
Tawny Lara, AKA The Sober Sexpert, is the author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze, co-host of the Recovery Rocks podcast, and co-founder of the vinegar-based botanical beverage, (parentheses)
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72. Dating when you're sober (or just tired of drinks dates) w/ Tawny Lara (@tawnymlara)

We're switching it up this week with some Q&A! I answered 10 questions you submitted on Instagram. Some are dating questions I've never really touched on before; some are personal questions about things I rarely get to talk about publicly.
Questions I answer in this episode:

How do you genuinely keep hope of finding your person when dating seems hard?

How to do long distance in the early days? We are 1.5 hours apart.

Do you or your partner have any spicy preferences? How did you bring it up?

Do you feel like you experienced enough as a bi woman before this relationship?

Advice for mid 40’s Female, first time dating post-divorce and interested in women for the first time?

Did you feel like men approached you differently dating at 30?

What if you can travel a lot more than your partner but that’s an important thing for you?

You’ve said Johnny was smitten right away. How much do you think that contributed to your relationship success?

How do you go from needing to wanting a partner?

Did you think you’d be where you’re at in life at 32?


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45. Who should pay on the first date and why?

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