120| Why You Have Sex (and Why You Should Check Your Motivations) - Rachel Hills

In this episode Rachel Hills gives advice on:

- What triggered your interest in this topic and your book The Sex Myth? How it got started and how it developed? (03:59)

- The kind of research that was involved in writing the book (05:45)

- How Rachel reached out to the people that were interviewed for the book (06:57)

- Rachel's current lifestyle in terms of relationships and social life (09:00)

- Why do we have sex? (10:20)

- Interview examples of some of the influences of sexual behavior that were more social, coming from more of the external environment that Rachel came across (12:15)

- Interview examples of men who were very sexually active to get an idea of their influences (14:12)

- Reasons people hook up with other people that they are not necessarily attracted to (19:20)

- The big gap between our fantasies and realities, from a cultural perspective (25:20)

- Perceptions people currently have about sex - norms and standards (26:30)

- The biggest gaps between peoples' perceptions regarding sex and actually what is going on around them (29:25)

- Perceptions surrounding the types of sex people are having - a cultural shift (32:43)

- How the gap between our perceptions of reality is created overall, and what people can do to have a realistic view of their sexual activity, which reflects the actual reality (38:15)

- Has sex become more important for our status over time? (41:05)

- Are men being pushed towards a type of standard regarding sex? (48:27)

- Specific anxieties and stress around sexuality for men (52:33)

- How guys can get more satisfied and fulfilled in their lives in spite of existing external pressures (58:20)

- Practical and useful takeaways to ensure sex contributes to the quality of life (59:10)

- How to develop your own sexual standards independent of social pressures (1:02:20)

- How to connect with Rachel to learn about more about her and her work (1:04:45)

- Recommendations for quality advice and k

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