Has marriage been harder than you thought it would be? We often say there’s hope for every marriage, no matter where you are today - and there truly is. But you may be wondering how exactly to hold on and fight for your marriage if you’re in a really hard season. Today, we are sharing Dr. Kim’s conversation with special guest Toni Nieuwhof.  Toni is an author, speaker and family law mediator, and she brings such hope and wisdom in today’s episode. Tune in for hope and help to make the future of your marriage better than today.  We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:    The mental shift helped Toni and her husband keep fighting when their marriage was on the brink   Practical steps they took to start healing    Common issues Toni sees couples divorce over    How to change your mental narrative about your marriage    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!  RESOURCES   Get more of Toni’s wisdom on this topic in her book, “Before You Split”    On her website at https://toninieuwhof.com/    And on the  Smart Family Podcast    Are you willing to do what it takes to reset and renew your marriage? Fight for your marriage with the  Marriage 911 online course.       Missed the other episodes of our summer Worth Repeating Series? So far we’ve aired:     Worth Repeating | Be Your Authentic Self in a Superficial World With Special Guest Sam Acho    Worth Repeating | Breathe: Don’t Be Prickly    Worth Repeating: Cultivating Curiosity & Courage with Special Guest Bob Goff      

Worth Repeating: Hope For the Unhappy Marriage With Special Guest Toni Niewhof

Far too many couples are just surviving their marriage when it was meant to thrive. This is the place for practical tips on how to build an awesome marriage. Our passion is to help you strengthen your marriage.

Dr. Kim Kimberling hosts the show. Dr. Kim is the President of Awesome Marriage, has been married for 53 years, and has been a professional counselor for 40 years. He is the author of 7 Secrets to An Awesome Marriage and 14 Keys To Lasting Love. 

Dr. Kim is joined by co-host Lindsay Few, Content Director for Awesome Marriage. She has been married for 20 years. Her husband is a church planter, and they love ministering to married couples together. 

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Do you hope to break generational patterns of pain? Are childhood hurts haunting your marriage? Today’s guest Kristen Hallinan is a writer and speaker, and today she helps you see how to identify and break generational patterns to find hope, healing and redemption. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:      How your past trauma can affects your current reactions    What makes it so hard to break cycles    Red flags of unhealthy family dynamics    How to work with God to find his redemption    Steps to making a redemption plan for your marriage      *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES   “It can be easy to say, ‘Why didn’t I know better?’ You didn’t know better because that’s all you knew.” - Kristen Hallinan    “The more I’ve gotten to know who God is, the more I understand who I am.”- Kristen Hallinan    “I used to believe if I just tried hard enough, I could grow up and create this perfect family.” - Kristen Hallinan      MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:    Sign up  HERE to get the Couple’s Conversation Guide for each week’s new episode    Learn more about how to make your marriage conflict healthy by joining Dr. Kim for the 8 Guidelines for Fighting Fair Webinar    Dr. Kim recommends the book, The Body Keeps the Score    Grab Kristen’s book, Legacy Changer for more great info on the topic   Follow Kristen on Instagram and check out her website  

Breaking Generational Cycles For a Healthy Marriage with Kristen Hallinan | Ep. 611

Today we are sharing the final episode with Kathy McAtee Young and her story of finding safety after decades in an abusive marriage. In this episode Kathy shares some of the barriers that prevent spouses in abusive marriages from seeking safety and help, ways to begin moving out of the abusive relationship, and the ways healing begins afterward.    Don’t miss the conclusion to Kathy’s story. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:     Reasons that abused spouse don’t trust their own judgment   Steps to get out of an abusive marriage   Is it ever appropriate to intervene if you believe someone is being abused?    What the process of healing looks like after you get safe     *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES   “One of the hallmarks of an unsafe relationship is confusion.” - Kathy McAtee Young     “God sees you. He cares. And he is faithful.” - Kathy McAtee Young    “We don’t want your pity. Compassion, yes. There is a difference.” - Kathy McAtee Young   “Healing is a lifestyle, not a finish line.” - Kathy McAtee Young    “When you can name it, then you can process it.”  - Kathy McAtee Young    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:    Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline : 800-799-7233 https://www.thehotline.org/   Visit Kathy’s website to learn about the helpful resources and services she offers    Kathy can also be reached for coaching on Instagram    This previous episode explains a Biblical perspective on abuse     Lies That Keep You With Your Abuser with Dr. David E Clarke | Ep. 541      

Escaping an Emotionally Abusive Marriage Part 3: Help to Get Out and Get Safe | Ep. 610

Today in Part 2 of Kathy’s story, Kathy shares the ways she sought support from the church when she realized her marriage was in trouble, the responses she received, and the effects that had on her marriage. In this episode Kathy shares why it’s not possible for the abused spouse to end the abuse, and the difference between biblical versus unbiblical advice about abuse.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:      Interventions the church put in place, and why they were not successful    The wake up moment that turned things around for Kathy    What is an appropriate response to spousal abuse?    The red flags that advice or counsel about abuse is unbiblical      *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!      Red flags that advice or counsel about abuse is unbiblical     They won’t call out that abuse is abuse   They will not call the abuse sin   The safety of the abused spouse is not top priority    There is no call for repentance    They advise you to stay, regardless    Blaming the abused for the abuse    QUOTES   “There is one person responsible for abuse: It is the abuser.” - Kathy McAtee Young    “The Bible definitely commands forgiveness. It does not command reconciliation.”  - Kathy McAtee Young      MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:    Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline : 800-799-7233 https://www.thehotline.org/   Visit Kathy’s website to learn about the helpful resources and services she offers    Kathy can also be reached for coaching on Instagram    This previous episode explains a Biblical perspective on abuse     Lies That Keep You With Your Abuser with Dr. David E Clarke | Ep. 541    

Escaping an Emotionally Abusive Marriage Part 2: Seeking Church Support | Kathy’s Story Ep. 609

When does an unhealthy marriage become an abusive marriage? Where can you go when you need to get out? In today’s episode we hear part 1 of Kathy’s real marriage story. Kathy shares how she came to believe that divorce was the most God-honoring option in her situation, and how she found safety after 30+ years in an emotionally abusive marriage.  We are so grateful to Kathy for generously sharing her story. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:     Dispelling myths about who falls into abuse    Why marriage counseling does not work in abusive marriages   How Kathy learned her marriage was abusive   Why she stayed as long as she did, and why she later divorced       *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:    This previous episode defines a clear Biblical perspective on abuse:     Lies That Keep You With Your Abuser with Dr. David E Clarke | Ep. 541       QUOTES   “I want to debunk the myth that abused women are poorly educated, lower income, women who can easily be taken advantage of. That’s just not accurate.”  - Kathy McAtee Young    “Within the first year, I knew we had trouble…” - Kathy McAtee Young     “Marriage counseling does not work if there’s abuse involved. I know that now.” - Kathy McAtee Young    “Most people who are narcissists are really good at it.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling    “You have this idea that, ‘If she could fix all these things, then I wouldn’t be this way.’ That’s the blame shifting.” - Kathy McAtee Young    “The heart of abuse is power and control. Everything else is tactics.” - Kathy McAtee Young   

Escaping an Emotionally Abusive Marriage: Kathy’s Story | Ep. 608

Do you fight fair, or do you wish there was a referee to call a stop to the foul play when you argue with your spouse? Ground rules are an important step toward having healthy marriage conflict, so today Dr. Kim will spell out how to make sure you’re fighting fair in your marriage. We want to empower you to fight fair, and resolve issues in a kind and loving way.  If you need help to fight fair and truly resolve issues without making things worse, you will love today’s conversation.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:     The DOs and DON’Ts of fighting fair    The side effects of unhealthy conflict    A healthy way to “let it all out”    Can honesty go too far?  How do you know?    Tips to the reconnection process - how to make up well      *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!  QUOTES   “We both learned we needed to reconnect and apologize, but sometimes we werent’ ready to take that step at the same time. We had to learn that somebody needs to take the step. It doesn’t really matter who started the fight or who was wrong.”    “Taking responsibility is huge. Owning your part in it, even if you think you only did 10%, you still did 10%.”   “What are you sorry for? Be very specific in what you did and why you're taking responsibility.”   “I say it a lot: One of the best gifts you can give your marriage is to learn how to resolve conflict.”    Forgiveness and apologies need to have no strings attached. It’s just that I choose to do this.    We’re not just trying to clear a slate so our spouse stops bugging us. Have you repented before the Lord? That’s where this starts.    We are accountable to Him before being accountable to our spouse. Did I just treat my spouse in the way He would have me treat them? If not, I need to take that up with Him      QUESTIONS FOR YOU   When you really think about it, how did it affect your spouse when you had this conflict?    Repentance. Learning from the mistakes made and committing to work on them together.      MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:    Learn more about how to make your marriage conflict healthy by joining Dr. Kim for the 8 Guidelines for Fighting Fair Webinar    Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet is your quick guide to get marriage conflict on the right track.    If you’re ready to learn how to do conflict well, the Conflict Resolution Guide helps you diagnose the problem areas in your marriage, then learn the steps to resolve them.    TODAY is the last day for our 7 Most Popular Resource Bundle! Don’t miss the chance to get 7 of our most-loved resources for 1 donation of ANY amount in support of the ministry of Awesome Marriage! Get all the details here!      

Worth Repeating: Hope For the Unhappy Marriage With Special Guest Toni Niewhof

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