How do you know when something isn’t right for you? Sometimes we get caught up in the idea that hard work or working really hard for something will always bring it out in the best in us, but sometimes it’s just not worth it. In this episode we’re going to find out how to identify that and how to stop chasing after things that are not meant for you.
We’ll also find out what you can do instead to start living a life that feels right.
LINKS

Listen to Episode 317 ‘Intrinsic Vs Extrinsic Motivation’ at https://pod.fo/e/228a96.
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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos 
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 
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323. You Don't have to Beg, Force, or Chase to get what you Deserve

Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez.
On Mondays we dive into episodes with a combo of neuroscience and pop pscyhology: your pep talk and mindset hacks are all here. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak.
And on Thursdays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email info@dyfmpod.com to submit your questions.
 

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First up I’m going through your ICKS – you loved when I did it in episode 322 so thought I’d pick more of your hilarious icks to read out.
And then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions – this week it’s all about heartbreak in long term relationships.

How do you handle a relationship when your mind is telling you to run but your heart says otherwise? Me and my boyfriend are in our 20s and have been dating for a few years long distance.  Early on there was some lying and deception and we broke up, but I gave him a second chance as I thought he needed time to adjust from his single life to being coupled. I thought we were in a loving truthful relationship since then. But I have recently found out he has been texting 2 women. I feel it’s disrespectful, and my lack of trust from the previous lying has come back. He also follows Twitter pages with sexually explicit content. I’m a very trusting and open-minded person but I feel this relationship has made me insecure and untrusting particularly because we are long distance.
Blind or Blindsided: Last night my bf of 3 years came home from work and said we needed to talk and that this wasn’t working and he didn’t love me anymore. I didn’t see this coming at all. We recently opened a business together. We regularly have sex, said I love you, planned for the future, and last week got back from a holiday together. He said he hasn’t felt a connection for some time due to my negativity and that he said he wanted kids (I’m 41 and have had ovarian failure. We’ve gone through a round of IVF together). How was he able to completely blindside me without me realising anything was up – he has gone to a new place to live so he’s clearly had time to plan this without my picking up on it.

LINKS

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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos 
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 
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330. HEAD NOISE: The Ick List, Blind or Blindsided and Should I Stay or Should I Go?

So you’ve been dumped, or maybe you dumped someone. You’re scrolling through social media, or maybe a well meaning friend mentions, that your ex has moved on. Cue the SPIRAL. “How Could They?!”Already?!!!” “Did our time together mean NOTHING?”
I’m giving you ten steps to keep yourself in check when your ex moves on before you including how to not let it derail you, keep your perspective, and quit the feeling that they “owe” you something.
First up however, we’re diving into a SCIENCE FACT:
GHB – the pharmacology of the date rape drug explained.
LINKS

Listen to my Brain Fact about Heroin Mechanism of Action in EP 141 ‘Do this for 30 days and see what happens for you’ https://pod.fo/e/1f82e7 .
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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos 
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 
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329. What to do when Your Ex Moves on First

In the last Head Noise episode you guys LOVED the lies exes told so I’m bringing I back for an even more cooked part 2!
And then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions.

I'm 24, forever single, thriving and upset with men. ‘ve been single my whole life and honestly thrive. But I’m curious about what its’ like in a partnership and am open to a boyfriend but very rarely do I get genuinely excited by a guy. When I do I REALLY do. But every guy I’ve ever like has had another girl in their lives they choose over me. I feel like a second choice or someone’s back up. One guy literally said that I was his second choice once a few year ago lol. Am I doing something wrong? And How can I make it hurt less when I don’t feel chosen?
My dad and I have a good relationship when he’s in a good space, but when he’s in a bad place he can be a real arsehole Recently he and I got in a fight over text, and at the next family hang out I went to say hello to him and he gave me the most awkward side hug and barely talked to me. What do I do – I want a relationship with my dad but his behaviour is really childish and hurtful.

LINKS

If you want me to answer your question just email me at info@dyfmpod.com  
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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos 
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 
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328. HEAD NOISE: Exes Lies Part 2, Forever Single and Thriving But Upset with Men, and Daddy Issues,

New York Times best-selling author and international life and dating coach megastar Matthew Hussey joins the podcast!
We're diving deep into his advice on dating, owning who you are, being comfortable with what you want, and his brand new book Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person and Live Happily (No Matter What). I DARE you to leave this episode not feeling like a changed bean!
LINKS

Buy ‘Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily (No Matter What)’ by Matthew Hussey at https://www.lovelifebook.com/ .
Follow @thematthewhussey on Instagram https://rebrand.ly/matthewh-IG .
Check out Matthew’s YouTube Channel @thematthewhussey at https://rebrand.ly/mh-youtube .
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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Guest: Matthew Hussey . 
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos 
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 
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327. Matthew Hussey on How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person and Live Happily (No Matter What)

First I have a life update about something TRULY shocking that happened to me over the weekend, and I go through your stories of things men have lied to you about!
Then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions. In today’s episode we’ve got two really opposite topics!

My husband and I are in out mid 20s and have been together since our late 20s. His family are very close with him. I have recently realised that I have always put his needs above mine – his personality has become my personality. I want to do so much more, experience the world and step outside my comfort zone. I want to put off having kids for a while and he doesn’t accept or understand it. I want change and he is so happy and content without change. We’re growing apart and I don’t know what to do.
I’ve cheated on my husband with someone I had a huge connection with. We’ve ended it now as we are both married and decided we didn’t want to leave our partners for each other. Now that it is fully ended I don’t feel like I need to tell my husband as our relationship has really improved. I would just be unburdening my conscience to ruin lives, when I’ve already shut down that cheating relationship and am moving forward with my life. How do I alleviate the feelings of guilt that are clouding my moving forward.

LINKS

If you want me to answer your question just email me at info@dyfmpod.com


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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos 
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 
Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

323. You Don't have to Beg, Force, or Chase to get what you Deserve

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