Episode 317: You Weren’t Listening! Plus, Adoption Representation with Nefertiti Austin
Biz and Theresa wonder, if a parent talks in the kitchen, does anybody hear them? We realize that no matter how much we burn energy telling our kids important information about the day’s schedule or expectations, our kids aren’t listening. “You didn’t tell me!” and “I didn’t hear you!” abound! Plus, Biz is back and bored, Theresa gets impulsive and we welcome back Nefertiti Austin to talk about her new memoir Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender and Parenting In America.
Follow Nefertiti on Twitter @NefertitiAustin. Get your copy of her book Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender and Parenting In Americawherever books are sold.
Some book recommendations from Nefertiti:
Adoption Story Written by a Black Person for Children:
Heart Picked: Elizabeth’s Adoption Tale by Sara Crutcher 2016
Black Mom Narratives:
Rise Up Singing: Black Women Writers on Motherhood Edited by Cecelie Berry 2004
Black Motherhood(s): Contexts, Contours and Considerations Edited by Karen T. Craddock 2015
Child, Please: How Mama’s Old-School Lessons Helped Me Check Myself Before I Wrecked Myself by Ylonda Gault 2015
Postcards from Cookie: A Memoir of Motherhood, Miracles, and a Whole Lot of Mail by Caroline Clarke 2015
Becoming by Michelle Obama 2018
Guidebook to Relative Strangers: Journeys into Race, Motherhood, and History by Camille T. Dungy 2018
Mothering While Black: Boundaries and Burdens of Middle-Class Parenthood by Dawn Marie Dow 2019
Baby Love: Choosing Motherhood After a Lifetime of Ambivalence by Rebecca Walker
2008
Who’s Your Mama?: The Unsung Voices of Women and Mothers Edited by Yvonne Bynoe 2009
Breathe: A Letter to My Sons by Imani Perry
We Live for the We: The Political Power of Black Motherhood by Dani McClain
Check out Theresa’s new book! It Feels Good To Be Yourself is available now wherever books are sold.
Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org.
Be sure to tell us at the top of your message whether you’re leaving a Genius moment, a Fail, or a Rant! Thanks!!
Share a personal or commercial message on the show! Details at MaximumFun.org/Jumbotron.
Visit our Linktree for our website, merch, and more! https://linktr.ee/onebadmother
You can suggest a topic or a guest for an upcoming show by sending an email to [email protected].
Show Music
Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (www.incompetech.com)
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions
Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens
Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions
Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans
Mental Health Resources:
Therapy for Black Girls – Therapyforblackgirls.com
Dr. Jessica Clemmens – https://www.askdrjess.com
BLH Foundation – borislhensonfoundation.org
The Postpartum Support International Warmline - 1-800-944-4773 (1-800-944-4PPD)
The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline - 1-800-662-4357 (1-800-662-HELP)
Suicide Prevention Hotline: Call or chat. They are here to help anyone in crisis. Dial 988 for https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org and there is a chat option on the website.
Crisis Text Line: Text from anywhere in the USA (also Canada and the UK) to text with a trained counselor. A real human being.
USA text 741741
Canada text 686868
UK text 85258
Website: https://www.crisistextline.org
National Sexual Assault: Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.
https://www.rainn.org
National Domestic Violence Hotline:
https://www.thehotline.org/help/
Our advocates are available 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) in more than 200 languages. All calls are free and confidential.
They suggest that if you are a victim and cannot seek help, ask a friend or family member to call for you.
Teletherapy Search: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling
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Biz and Theresa wonder, if a parent talks in the kitchen, does anybody hear them? We realize that no matter how much we burn energy telling our kids important information about the day’s schedule or expectations, our kids aren’t listening. “You didn’t tell me!” and “I didn’t hear you!” abound! Plus, Biz is back and bored, Theresa gets impulsive and we welcome back Nefertiti Austin to talk about her new memoir Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender and Parenting In America.
Follow Nefertiti on Twitter @NefertitiAustin. Get your copy of her book Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender and Parenting In Americawherever books are sold.
Some book recommendations from Nefertiti:
Adoption Story Written by a Black Person for Children:
Heart Picked: Elizabeth’s Adoption Tale by Sara Crutcher 2016
Black Mom Narratives:
Rise Up Singing: Black Women Writers on Motherhood Edited by Cecelie Berry 2004
Black Motherhood(s): Contexts, Contours and Considerations Edited by Karen T. Craddock 2015
Child, Please: How Mama’s Old-School Lessons Helped Me Check Myself Before I Wrecked Myself by Ylonda Gault 2015
Postcards from Cookie: A Memoir of Motherhood, Miracles, and a Whole Lot of Mail by Caroline Clarke 2015
Becoming by Michelle Obama 2018
Guidebook to Relative Strangers: Journeys into Race, Motherhood, and History by Camille T. Dungy 2018
Mothering While Black: Boundaries and Burdens of Middle-Class Parenthood by Dawn Marie Dow 2019
Baby Love: Choosing Motherhood After a Lifetime of Ambivalence by Rebecca Walker
2008
Who’s Your Mama?: The Unsung Voices of Women and Mothers Edited by Yvonne Bynoe 2009
Breathe: A Letter to My Sons by Imani Perry
We Live for the We: The Political Power of Black Motherhood by Dani McClain
Check out Theresa’s new book! It Feels Good To Be Yourself is available now wherever books are sold.
Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org.
Be sure to tell us at the top of your message whether you’re leaving a Genius moment, a Fail, or a Rant! Thanks!!
Share a personal or commercial message on the show! Details at MaximumFun.org/Jumbotron.
Visit our Linktree for our website, merch, and more! https://linktr.ee/onebadmother
You can suggest a topic or a guest for an upcoming show by sending an email to [email protected].
Show Music
Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (www.incompetech.com)
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions
Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens
Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions
Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans
Mental Health Resources:
Therapy for Black Girls – Therapyforblackgirls.com
Dr. Jessica Clemmens – https://www.askdrjess.com
BLH Foundation – borislhensonfoundation.org
The Postpartum Support International Warmline - 1-800-944-4773 (1-800-944-4PPD)
The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline - 1-800-662-4357 (1-800-662-HELP)
Suicide Prevention Hotline: Call or chat. They are here to help anyone in crisis. Dial 988 for https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org and there is a chat option on the website.
Crisis Text Line: Text from anywhere in the USA (also Canada and the UK) to text with a trained counselor. A real human being.
USA text 741741
Canada text 686868
UK text 85258
Website: https://www.crisistextline.org
National Sexual Assault: Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.
https://www.rainn.org
National Domestic Violence Hotline:
https://www.thehotline.org/help/
Our advocates are available 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) in more than 200 languages. All calls are free and confidential.
They suggest that if you are a victim and cannot seek help, ask a friend or family member to call for you.
Teletherapy Search: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling
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