Just like his affair and sexual addiction had nothing to do with you, neither does his moving on have to do with you. Whats often happening here, underneath it all, is we are making this mean something about ourselves intrinsically.

Meaning, we are connecting our worth and value and enoughness to this- so it hurts. Our thoughts might be- I wasn't good enough for him to choose- whats wrong with me that he wouldn't do the work to be healthy for me but he will for her (which i will highly argue that he' healthy) your brain might be offering you the thoughts that he gets to have a  happily ever after and you are now alone forever.

So the first thinking to avoid is making this mean anything about you. Let me save you so much time and energy here by just saying that  when you give yourself the time and space to grieve and heal the relationships and divorce appropriately, you are going to thrive and make healthy connections in the future.

Today I offer you a few questions to ask yourself and journal as well as some tools to work on that will help you make the shift into the empowered divorce!

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Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check out

Should I Stay or Go- The first Thursday of every month for those who are feeling stuck making the decision to stay or leave the marriage. This is a group coaching session to help you see what might be keeping you stuck. Register Here

The Empowered Divorce Monthly Q&A- Each month Amie hold a Q&A for those who are divorced. Join HERE and come be apart of women supporting women along the journey as well as getting those questions answered by the expert! Register HERE

The Body Love Class- Free workshop to help you love your body again after betrayal

Believing In You- Take your healing to the next level by really becoming more aware of your human brain and how its keeping you from being the chooser in your life. Amie's group coaching program is an incredible way to get coached by her as well as feel support from other women, and most importantly really start healing and creating the life you want. Next group starts in January. Sports fill fast so get yours today! Register HERE

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