Have you ever said YES to a dinner, event or coffee meet up when you absolutely do NOT want to go? You literally regret the word YES before you even finish the sentence. Why is that? Why do we allow ourselves to commit to things we have 0 interest in being at? Is it that hard to say the word “no”? If so - what’s holding us back from saying it more often than not? Are we afraid to let people down? Are we afraid of the all mighty FOMO?

Today I was to discuss the importance of learning to say NO when or gut resists an opportunity. By doing so, we create space for ourselves to say YES to opportunities that truly do excite us. Our time is limited, there are only so many hours in the day and we must be cautious with how we spend our time. Let’s stop dishing out our precious, valuable time to anyone & everyone and lets instead be extremely mindful with where we spend it.

Four principles for saying NO

• (1) Say YES Only If It Excites You : We must learn to say NO to events & opportunities that don’t excite us so that we have the space to say YES to the ones that do.
• (2) Create Space For Yourself : We must learn to say NO so that we can create space to have our alone time to relax, reset & reflect.
• (3) We’re The Manager Of Our Time : Nobody controls where we spend our time except for us.
• (4) Excuses Are Not Needed : When we say NO to something, we don’t need to provide any excuse as to why. If people pressure us, simply tell them you’re busy focusing on yourself.

 

Challenge for the listeners

What have you committed to recently that you should have said NO to? If there’s something & it’s coming up, I want you to back out of the plans immediately. Text / call the person and let them know something has come up and you can’t make it. As simple as that. If your plate is clear as of now, I really challenge you from this moment moving forward to only say YES to events + opportunities that truthfully excite you.

Questions from the Stay Dialed In Community

• Dasha : The importance of boundaries + Alyssa : Work boundaries
• Ben : How do you tell family no & that you need to focus, when you are usually relied on for so much?
• Elsa : How to say no to my friend when they ask me to go out without looking like an annoying person?
• Manu : The difference between being assertive and being aggressive

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