So you’re in the midst of conflict and frustrated with the other party. What can you do get what you really want? On today’s show, Bonni Stachowiak joins me to discuss the path to get there.

Guest: Bonni Stachowiak

Bonni and I discussed three steps for getting what you most want out of conflict:

Recognize our tendency to focus on ourselves being right and the other party being wrong.

Getting clear on the feeling factor: becoming aware of our own feelings and learning to express them accurately to another party

Know your short and long-term goal. “Given what has already transpired that you can't change, what do you want to have come out of this situation?”

We recommended the book Difficult Conversations*

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How would identifying what you want out of conflict help you in a current dialogue?