The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

228. Enough With The "Duty" Sex. How To Start Wanting To Make Love Again


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For most couples, during the early years of marriage things are passionate and sex seems to happen often. But as time passes on, sex in the relationship dwindles and couples stop having frequent sexual intimacy and the passion wears off. This is a very common theme for MANY couples.

According to experts, couples that find themselves in this type of relationship have around an 80% of ending in divorce.

So you have the relationships where couples just aren’t having sex due to one of (or both) the spouses loosing interest.

The second scenario is where the lower desire spouse is not wanting to have sex, but does so occasionally out of feeling “duty” to do so. This is called “duty sex.”

No one likes duty sex. Not the spouse giving in, or the spouse receiving. And the problem with duty sex is the spouse doing it is going to feel resentment towards the high desire spouse, and the high desire spouse is going to feel rejected and withdrawn by the lower desire spouse.

Most relationships fall under these categories where there is little to no sex happening, or where there is “duty sex” happening in the relationship. 

So how can marriages (or the low desire spouse) want to start making love again?
In this episode, Nick and Amy share the ways couples can get out of the "duty sex" mind frame and start wanting to make love again!

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