It can be so easy to look at other people's poor behavior and get really judgy about it, especially when it is hurtful toward us or someone we love. But one of the greatest shifts that we can experience in life is when we begin to see other people's hurtful behavior coming from a place of pain. When we can recognize that 'hurt people hurt people', and begin to look beyond the behavior and see instead the pain that is spawning the behavior, we can move into a much more compassionate and kind place. In so doing, we can create a safe space for the other person to see and acknowledge their pain and their behavior, and we can feel amazing about how we are engaging in our relationships.