October 24, 2025

297. How Christian Daughters Can Prepare Wisely When Dementia Leaves the Paperwork a Mess — Legal Clarity Made Simple

24 minutes

“She had POA, her name on the bank, the house deed… then I asked, ‘Does your mom have a will?’ Silence.” That’s where Jennifer and I began in Episode 297—and where many of us discover the one document holding everything together.

As always, I started with my focusing prompt: “In six months, what needs to have changed for you to be able to say your caregiving journey is easier?” Jennifer’s answer: I need more support. Together, we turned that into a plan.

1) Legal clarity, not guesswork.

POA is important, but a will still matters for peace and protection. If you’re not sure it exists (or where it is), make that your first call this week. Stewardship is part of your obedience; God is not a God of confusion.

2) Ask differently—get real help.

“Let me know if I can help” isn’t help. Make a specific help-list (two meals/week, Saturday outing, lawn care), keep it in your purse, and when someone offers, schedule it on both calendars. People aren’t busy when it’s scheduled.

3) Simple home-safety test.

If your loved one can’t scan for what they can’t see (open fridge → find food; open drawer → find phone), they’re not safe to be home alone. That single test guides next steps—no guilt, just wisdom.

4) Begin with the end in mind.

If your mom lives long enough with dementia, 24-hour care will be needed. Map options now: paid in-home help, adult day, memory care. Using Mom’s money for Mom’s care is stewardship, not selfishness—you’re protecting two lives: hers and yours.

If you’re tired of guessing, I’d love to walk with you. Join the Christian DigniCare Society (lifetime access, monthly live support, prayer, practical tools) or come to our next free workshop—details in the show notes. You don’t have to carry this alone.

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By Lizette Cloete, Christian Dementia Coach

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