There it is, right on my website:  marital therapy is not particularly effective.  And yet, people often contact me to ask, "Where can I get therapy?"

Why?

Because our culture is psychologized and therapized, for good or bad.

So let me be crystal clear:  I am NOT across-the-board opposed to marital therapy.  There are excellent therapists out there.  And there are excellent approaches out there.

It just isn't guaranteed that you will find the right therapist, or that you and your spouse will approach therapy in a way that will be effective.

Which is the two parts of the problem:  Therapist issues and client issues.

This week, I want to discuss 3 ways to really guarantee that your marriage therapy will fail.  One is all about the therapist you choose.  Two ways are about how you use the therapy.

And here is the super-cool thing:  if you know these 3 ways to absolutely guarantee failure... you can avoid them!  Then, therapy (if you so choose it) has a chance of helping... and not harming... your relationship.

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