December 02, 2025

308. How Christian Caregivers Can Honor Truth When a Parent with Dementia Accuses Them of Stealing — A Step-by-Step Conversation Script

18 minutes

What do you do when every clarifying question only makes the confusion worse?

If you’ve ever watched your loved one insist something happened that never did—and felt the room tighten with every attempt to reason—this episode will give you a calmer, clearer way forward.

In today’s conversation, we walk through real caregiving moments with a daughter caring for both her parents. Her dad’s paranoia shows up as missing items, shifting stories, and sudden suspicion. Her instinct—like many Christian caregivers—is to explain, fix, or clarify. But as she discovered, those questions often feel like pressure to a brain already overwhelmed.

This episode introduces a simple, repeatable method you can begin using today: Yes → Validate → Redirect.

It’s honest. It’s gentle. And it brings peace back into the room without joining an argument you can never win.

You’ll hear practical examples, including how to respond when your loved one insists valuable items have disappeared or when old memories resurface as today’s reality. You’ll also learn why this approach works better than over-explaining and how Christian caregivers can apply these tools with patience and biblical clarity.

Whether you’re navigating paranoia, confabulation, or those “stink-eye” days when you know something is off, this episode equips you with language that lowers tension instead of escalating it.

🌿 What You’ll Learn

• Why reasoning or clarifying questions often intensify paranoia

• How to use the Yes, Validate, Redirect method

• How to meet emotional needs without lying or using confusing distraction

• Why caregiving conversations are part of your spiritual growth

• How to guide a moment back to safety when stories become fabricated

• What Christian caregivers can do to bring calm into unpredictable interactions

• This is practical support grounded in truth, clarity, and real-life caregiving experience—designed to help you respond with confidence the next time hard conversations arise.

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💬 What Do I Say When Dementia Makes Words Hard?

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🤝 You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

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🧭 Still Feeling Stuck?

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By Lizette Cloete, Christian Dementia Coach

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