Do You Love Me as Much as the Kids? A Conversation Every Couple Needs 

One of our friends recently asked his wife, “Do you love me as much as the kids?” and it sparked a powerful conversation about love, priorities, and intimacy in marriage. Many husbands have shared with us, through messages or emails, that sometimes they feel like they come after everything else, especially the kids. And yes, this can go both ways, of course.

Instead of quickly answering, “Of course not! Duh!”, take a moment to reflect on your own marriage. 

Does your spouse feel the need to ask this? Why? It’s not a bad question, it’s deeply important. When discussed in a loving, thoughtful way, it can strengthen connection, clarify needs, and prevent resentment.

In this episode, we dive into:

• Why husbands ask this question and what’s really underneath it
• How wives may unintentionally spark this concern
• How to balance parenting and marriage without guilt or competition
• Conversation questions that can transform your connection

Plus 5+ Questions Couples Can Ask Each Other on this episode:

1. When do you feel most loved and prioritized by me?
2. Do you ever feel like the kids come before you, and if so, what does that look like?
3. How can I reassure you that you’re my spouse first, even in busy seasons?
4. What would “balance” between marriage and kids look like in this season?
5. What’s one intentional or fun thing we could do this week to remind each other that our marriage comes first?

Tune in for honest, heartfelt advice that will inspire you to keep your marriage at the center of your life. 

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