August 06, 2023

54: What to Do When He Constantly Complains About Sex, with guest Dr. Karin Calde

34 minutes

You NEED to listen to this conversation with Dr. Karin Calde if your husband is constantly pressuring you for sex, or you feel like he complains all the time about not getting enough sex from you, or if you're a man who feels like you have a dead bedroom and aren't sure how to fix it. My guest takes the mystery out of this barrier to peace in the home, sharing her expertise on creating true intimacy and desire.

In this episode, we explore:

Desire Discrepancy

5 Gears of Touch and the importance of non-sexual touch

The sexual gas pedal and sexual brake pedal

Sex and masculinity -- what do beliefs about masculinity have to do with his desire?

Spontaneous desire vs. responsive desire

The importance of sexual "date nights" for marriage

"If it's not pleasurable, then it's probably not worth having."

Creating a rule book for "good sex"

How we center the man's experience

Dr. Karin Calde is a former therapist and current Internal Family Systems-informed relationship coach with an unquenchable thirst for all things love and self-growth. She helps couples in committed relationships create more intimacy and deepen their connection with one another.

You can find her at https://drcalde.com/ or listen to her podcast, Love Is Us: Exploring Relationships and How We Connect.

www.instagram.com/theloveandconnectioncoach

www.tiktok.com/@theloveandconnectioncoach

Resources Mentioned in the Show:

Men's Groups: EVRYMAN

Men's Coach: Man Talks and Men's Work by Connor Beaton

5 Gears of Touch: Sexual Awareness by Barry McCarthy

Pleasure: She Comes First by Ian Kerner, Ph.D.

And as always, you can find me at bethrowles.com

Or join our Facebook Group, Soul Sages!

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