79: Part 6/12, The Art of Asking for What You Want: How to Talk about Sex Series

In this episode, Janelle and Andrea discuss the Wheel of Consent with educator, playwright and pro-domme Carmen Leilani De Jesus. They cover how to get curious about what we want and ask for it (no small task) and how we can find a win-win! There's real-time embodiment exercises, several mic drop moments (Andrea shrieks!) and actionable homework for Bravehearts. Includes a nod to the Pomodoro Technique, "The Art of Giving and Receiving", by Betty Martin, the Wanting Game and the Three Minute Game. You'll hear:

--Where to start when approaching your partner about sex

--Why pleasure is an INSIDE job (and you can take responsibility for yours!)

--Why "giving you pleasure gives me pleasure" isn't a win-win

--How the basics still apply: Trust, Value and Communication

--Why consent should be a mutual understanding of desires and limits (or willingness with limits!).

--How saying our desires out loud can help us embody them

--Why Janelle likes to have sex and THEN go to dinner

--The lowdown on creating somatic bookmarks in your body!

Connect with Carmen:

www.consentisapractice.co

IG = @‌consentisapractice

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

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