A Letter to the Woman With Questions About Sex and Intimacy // Kimberly Hahn

Just a heads-up - today’s episode is a conversation about intimacy within marriage.

There’s a lot of advice floating around out there for us as Catholic women today when it comes to our marriages and our motherhood. And I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but a lot of that advice tends to be pretty conflicting.

It seems like every time I log onto Instagram, there’s a conversation about who-said-what about marriage, mothering, making love, and what the Catholic Church says or doesn’t say on those topics. Finding answers in that kind of environment can seem pretty intimidating. Who do you trust? What’s the truth?

Where do we go for answers to questions like what kind of pleasure is allowed when we make love to our spouse? What do you do when you and your spouse aren’t on the same page when it comes to a desire to grow your family? 

Today, I had the honor of sitting down with Kimberly Hahn. She’s such a wealth of knowledge and has a beautiful gift of approaching topics that don’t get talked about enough with such reverence. She’s been through all the stages of motherhood and she’s been married to her husband, Scott, for over forty years. She’s steeped in Scripture and so knowledgeable when it comes to what Christ and his Church have to say about intimacy and sexuality.

If you have questions about intimacy in your marriage and you want answers, sister, this letter is for you.

A quick note, Kimberly came on the podcast back in June, and in that episode she really dove into her story as a convert to Catholicism and the way she lives out the feminine genius. Today’s podcast is hyperfocused on intimacy and discernment in marriage, so if you want to get to know Kimberly first, check out the link in the show notes for that episode from the archives.

Topics we talked about in this episode:

What Proverbs 31 can teach us as Catholic wives when it comes to intimacy in our marriage

Pleasure for both men and women within a marriage and how the Catholic Church’s teachings compare to what the world tells us about intimacy

Discerning serious reasons for avoiding children with your spouse

How to talk about sex and intimacy with your spouse

The one question you should ask yourself before sharing something about your sex life with a friend

Resources you should check out after listening:

“Beloved and Blessed: Biblical Wisdom for Family Life” by Kimberly Hahn

Listen to Beloved and Blessed, Kimberly’s weekly podcast 

Hear more about Kimberly’s story as a Catholic woman and how she lives out the feminine genius in our conversation on creating a way of life from last June 

“Life Giving Love” by Kimberly Hahn

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Pre-order my newest book, Sisterhood: Giving and Receiving the Gift of Friendship

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