This week, we dig into the how and why of sexual connection in gay male culture. How central is hooking up to being gay? Can you de-center sexual connection in gay culture without being sex-negative? Is it just "guys being guys?" or are we just doing "gay" wrong?

Am I Doing "Gay" Wrong?

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Things are going down at Twitter, and folks are jumping ship. Neil and Cody are back at the microphones, talking about what's good about Twitter, what's lousy about it, and what might come next for queer community if Twitter disappears.

Is There Life After the Discourse?

Tyger Songbird is one of the most vulnerable, approachable aroace voices on Twitter, so I was very excited to chat with him. Our conversation covers his experiences as a Black aroace man writing to create space for others like him. This is a thoughtful, uplifting conversation.

Tyger Songbird is an aroace writer & asexual advocate who's been published in multiple online publications. He’s currently working on a book titled Ace of Spades, about his experiences being an aromantic asexual in the culture. He is also head moderator of an asexual subreddit as well. You can find Tyger on Medium and Twitter @TygerSongbird.

You can find me on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube and twitter @acedadadvice. And on the web at acedadadvice.com. If you want more of our conversation, as well as some other bonus asexuality content including live hangouts, access to our Discord, and other cool stuff, become a patron at patreon.com/acedadadvice.

Fierce Peace with Tyger Songbird

To celebrate Ace Week 2022 and the return of Bearded Fruit, I had a wonderful, warm, and insightful conversation with the creator of Ace in Grace, Ashabi Owagboriaye. Ashabi talks about why she created her highly successful Instagram space for ace folks, what it means to live life "out loud," and why she loves anime. Plus a whole lot more. 

Ashabi Owagboriaye [She/They] is a Nigerian-American Multidisciplinary Artist, Advocate & Organizer in the city of Chicago. As an out-loud Black Androgynous Queer Asexual Person, she uses her platforms and voice to shed light on & normalize the experiences of Asexuality & the intersections within their identities. They are the creator and curator of Ace In Grace, a space used to educate on the topic of asexuality while also uplifting Black, Indigenous other people of colour within this community. Ashabi is currently studying at Roosevelt University and will be graduating in May 2023 with her master’s degree in Clinical & Mental Health Counseling. She is also a NBCC 2021 Minority Fellow and has committed to continuing their education, bringing with her an emphasis on providing the most culturally competent care to her clients possible.

You can find Ashabi and her Ace in Grace project on Instagram at @_aceingrace_ and her other work at www.ashabio.com 

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Space and Grace with Ashabi Owagboriaye

Because we're recording on Father's Day, we're talking about daddies! On this episode, we dig into the idea of "daddy," how it relates to our lives and what "daddy" means culturally. We also talk about some of the research on intergenerational relationships and see if they stack up to what we see in the community.

Hey, Daddy!

This episode from 2017 is one of my favorites, and it's an important episode to bring back.

This week, Bearded Fruit turns over the reigns of the podcast to Cleveland-based hip hop artist Jesse Paradice. He discusses his powerful EP "Don't Call Me Ethnic." the turbulent forces that shaped his musical voice, and the urgent need for us to listen -- and listen closely -- to queer black artists and other people (and artists)of color.

Find Jesse online at:https://spark.adobe.com/page/vKoZR7dKwHaDC/
Find Jesse on Twitter @BlvckCeltic

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