Ask Dr. Julie Hanks

By Dr. Julie Hanks

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Each week Dr. Hanks coaches a real person through a common life challenge. Listen to Ask Dr. Julie Hanks for healing conversations that educate and empower women to prioritize their needs, revolutionize their families, and personalize their faith.

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“How do I claim my sexualit...

05.30.2023

In this podcast episode, I talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. She answered the question, “How do I claim my sexuality?” Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a relationship and sexuality educator and coach as well as a licensed clinical professional counselor. She has ...

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05.30.2023 “How do I claim my sexuality?” with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and Dr. Julie Hanks In this podcast episode, I talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. She answered the question, “How do I claim my sexuality?” Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a relationship and sexuality educator and coach as well as a licensed clinical professional counselor. She has ...
05.16.2023 Frequently Asked Questions Series: Pt 4 This week Richie joins me as I answer more of your most frequently asked questions. Listen to hear answers to questions like: Is my grief over infertility related to the teaching that the most important thing for me to be ...
05.02.2023 Do I have to end my friendship with a family member’s ex now that they are divorced? In this episode I talk with Heidi and answer the question “Do I have to end my friendship with a family member’s ex now that they are divorced?” Heidi grew very close with the person who married into her family, ...
04.18.2023 What do I do when my friends and family won’t acknowledge my vulnerable faith deconstruction work? In this episode, I talk with Valerie and answer the question “What do I do when my friends and family won’t acknowledge my vulnerable faith deconstruction work?” Valerie is a fellow therapist and podcaster. She has been struggling with negative ...
04.04.2023 How can I build confidence and not let self-doubt hold me back from achieving my goals? In this episode, I talk with Stacy and answer the question “How can I build confidence and not let self-doubt hold me back from achieving my goals?” Stacy is studying to become a therapist, and she wants to build up ...
03.21.2023 FAQ Series: Pt. 3 (March) I’m excited to bring you another FAQ podcast episode! Join me as I sit down with Richie and answer more of your frequently asked questions. Tune in to hear answers to questions like: How do I stand up for myself ...
03.07.2023 Bonus: How Do I Stop Seeking Others’ Approval with Dr. Jen (March theme) In this bonus podcast episode I talk with Dr. Jennifer Douglas about March’s theme in the Dr. Julie Hanks Group Coaching Membership: How do I stop seeking others’ approval? In this dynamic conversation we uncover the roots of perfectionism, share ...
02.21.2023 Bonus: Overcoming Shame and Cultivating Body Love with Dr. Morgan Francis In this bonus podcast episode, I talk with Dr. Morgan Francis about overcoming body shame and cultivating body love. Dr. Francis is a licensed therapist who offers courses and therapy services on her website that can help you stop hating ...
02.14.2023 Is putting my spouse before my kids the best way to manage my parent/spouse relationships? Jennifer is a mother of 1 and a widow who recently remarried. Growing up, she always felt that her parents had a great relationship because they put each other first. Now that she is remarried, she wants to know if ...
02.07.2023 BONUS: Most Frequently Asked Questions In this bonus podcast episode, I sit down with my podcast editor Richie and answer another round of your frequently asked questions. Listen to find answers to questions like When do I know if I am depressed or just in ...
01.31.2023 When my parents don’t respect my boundaries, how can I find a middle ground between putting up with it and shutting them out? In this episode, I talk with Cyd and address the question “When my parents don’t respect my boundaries, how can I find a middle ground between putting up with it and shutting them out?” Cyd expresses frustration at her parents’ ...
01.24.2023 Why do I have such a hard time when I tell my kids no? In this episode I talk with Tamee and answer the question “Why do I have such a hard time when I tell my kids no?” Tamee shares that even though she knows she isn’t responsible for making sure her children ...
01.17.2023 Bonus Episode: Self Love vs Selfishness with Chrissy Powers In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Chrissy Powers about the difference between self care and selfishness. Chrissy is an LMFT, creative coach, writer, therapist, and mother of three. Her work focuses on encouraging others to live ...
01.10.2023 How can I find healing from the challenges of being a quadruplet? In this podcast episode, I talk with Natalie and address the question “How can I find healing from the challenges of being a quadruplet?” One of Natalie’s biggest challenges is comparison, both in comparing herself to her quadruplet siblings and ...
01.03.2023 Bonus Episode: FAQ Series In this bonus podcast episode, I sit down and answer eight of your most frequently asked questions. Listen to see how I answer questions like:I want another child, but my husband does not. How do we navigate this?How do I ...
12.27.2022 How do I handle the fear of temporal and eternal consequences if I leave the Church? In this episode I talk with Caitlin and answer the question “How do I handle the fear of temporal and eternal consequences if I leave the Church?” Caitlin’s faith journey has led her to some questions about the LDS Church. ...
12.20.2022 What can I do when my ex doesn’t want to co-parent? In this episode, I talk with Benjamin and answer the question “What can I do when my ex doesn’t want to co-parent?” Benjamin shares that there are still a lot of hurt feelings between himself and his ex wife due ...
12.13.2022 How can I better connect and communicate with my orthodox family now that I’ve left the LDS Church? In this episode, I talk with Rebecca and answer the question “How can I better connect and communicate with my orthodox family now that I’ve left the LDS Church?” Rebecca left the LDS Church and came out as gay. Her ...
12.06.2022 Am I helping or enabling my adult child who suffers from mental illness? In this episode, I talk with Jodie and answer the question “Am I helping or enabling my adult child who suffers from mental illness?” Jodie’s daughter moved home from college after experiencing a traumatic event, and Jodie is struggling to ...
11.29.2022 How can I cope with the idea that my dad will always choose the Church over me? In this episode, I talk with Shelby and answer the question “How can I cope with the idea that my dad will always choose the Church over me?” Shelby has left the LDS Church. At times when Shelby has asked ...
11.22.2022 How do I navigate a relationship with my difficult parents who do not support my gay son? In this episode, I talk with a mother and answer the question “How do I navigate a relationship with my difficult parents who do not support my gay son?” This mother grew up in a home where individuality was discouraged, ...
11.15.2022 How do I come to terms with decisions my parents made for my life that should have been made by me? In this episode, I talk with Rachel and address the question “How do I come to terms with decisions my parents made for my life that should have been made by me?” Rachel shares a few examples with me that ...
11.08.2022 Bonus Episode: Conversations with Orthodox Parents with Sal Osborne In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Sal Osborne of @comingoutcoach about communicating with active LDS parents during a faith transition. Sal talks about the evolution of her relationship with her mother, who was an active member ...
11.01.2022 How can I work through my fear of rejection? In this episode of the podcast I work with Sariah and address the question, “How can I work through my fear of rejection?” Sariah grew up in an abusive environment, and she sees the impact of that in her daily ...
10.25.2022 What do I do when I see my mom favoring my sister-in-law who has a personality disorder? In this episode, I coach Kellie and address the question, “What do I do when I see my mom favoring my sister-in-law who has a personality disorder?” Although Kellie has repeatedly set boundaries with her mother that relate to her ...
10.18.2022 Bonus: Recovering from the Effects of Purity Culture with Dr. Camden In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Dr. Camden Morgante about recovering from the effects of purity culture. Dr. Camden is a psychologist, Christian, coach, and writer who is currently working on a book about the myths ...
10.11.2022 How do I change the type of man I am attracted to? In this episode, I coach Heather and address the question, “How do I change the type of man I am attracted to?” Heather has noticed a pattern in her dating life where she is attracted to men who she has ...
10.04.2022 How do I have a relationship with my needy mother-in-law while needing to take care of my own family? In this episode, I talk with Brittany and address the question, “How do I have a relationship with my needy mother-in-law while needing to take care of my own family?” Brittany and her husband provided a lot of financial and ...
09.27.2022 Bonus: Developing Confidence in your Sexuality with Bat Sheva, Sex Therapist In this bonus podcast episode I talk with Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, who is an Orthodox Jewish therapist, writer, author, and speaker who specializes in sexuality. She is also the author of Sex Points.Though we come from different religious backgrounds, ...
09.20.2022 Should my ex be putting his new spouse and marriage before our children? In this episode, I coach Amber and address the question, “Should my ex be putting his new spouse and marriage before our children?” Amber’s ex-husband is getting married and moving away at the end of the year. Her children are ...
09.13.2022 How do I release my need to please people without feeling guilty? In this episode, I coach Madeline and address the question, “How do I release my need to please people without feeling guilty?” Madeline shares that she struggles to make her voice a priority. Throughout her life she has placed great ...
09.06.2022 How do I do hard things when they seem too hard to do? In this episode I coach Alison Faulkner, host of the Awesome with Alison podcast and author of You’re Already Awesome. Alison was getting ready to release her book when we talked, so I addressed her question, “How do I do ...
08.30.2022 My husband is leaving the Church, and now I’m struggling with my own testimony. Do I stay or do I go? In this episode, I coach Farrah and address her concern: “My husband is leaving the Church, and now I’m struggling with my own testimony. Do I stay or do I go?” Farrah feels she has comfortably lived in a gray ...
08.23.2022 How do I navigate feeling like I don’t fit in or personally align with LDS culture while wanting to stay a member of the Church? In this episode, I coach Tanya and address the question, “How do I navigate feeling like I don’t fit in or personally align with LDS culture while wanting to stay a member of the Church?” Tanya has been feeling a ...
08.16.2022 Bonus Episode: Healing Your Inner Child with Tiffany Roe In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Tiffany Roe, mental health counselor and host of the Therapy Thoughts podcast. We discuss this month’s membership topic—healing your inner child—and Tiffany drops dozens of truth bombs throughout the conversation. ...
08.09.2022 How do I release the burden of feeling responsible to protect my siblings from the struggles and challenges of life? In this episode, I coach Dakota and address the question, “How do I release the burden of feeling responsible to protect my siblings from the struggles and challenges of life?” Dakota is the oldest of six children, and she has ...
08.02.2022 How can I stop overthinking about things in the future that are out of my control? In this episode, I coach Kirsten and address the question, “How can I stop overthinking about things in the future that are out of my control?” Kirsten finds herself constantly thinking ahead and worrying about consequences, pros and cons, and ...
07.26.2022 How can I let go of mom guilt and create more partnership in my family? In this episode, I coach entrepreneur and influencer Rachel Parcell (@rachparcell), owner of rachelparcell.com, and address the question “How can I let go of mom guilt and create more partnership in my family?” Rachel and her husband have a common ...
07.19.2022 How can I let go of control in my life as a mom pursuing a masters degree? In this episode, I coach Michelle and address the question “How can I let go of control in my life as a mom pursuing a masters degree?” Michelle shares she has always felt like she has to be one hundred ...
07.12.2022 Bonus Episode: Healing Aspirational Shame with Courtney Brown In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Courtney Brown, CEO of Cents of Style, about aspirational shame. Aspirational shame is the experience of feeling guilty for having aspirations outside of home and family life. We share our ...
07.05.2022 How can I set boundaries with my mentally ill mother? In this episode, I coach Jane and address the question “How can I set boundaries with my mentally ill mother?” Jane has struggled interacting with her mother and feeling manipulated throughout her life and is seeing the cost of that ...
07.01.2022 Bonus Episode: 500k Podcast Celebration! This special podcast episode is a celebration of Ask Dr. Julie Hanks reaching half a million downloads. I hosted a live Q&A; and answered questions about family, faith, mental health, faith transitions, communication, and more. I hope you’ll also enjoy ...
06.28.2022 How can I help my kids foster a relationship with a family member I don’t get along with? In this episode, I coach Kacey and address the question “How can I help my kids foster a relationship with a family member I don’t get along with?” Kacey has a strained relationship with her mother-in-law, but she doesn’t want ...
06.21.2022 How can I reframe the way I think about my job? In this episode, I coach Tessa and address the question “How can I reframe the way I think about my job?” Growing up, Tessa was taught that finding a job she loves meant she wouldn’t work a day in her ...
06.14.2022 Bonus: Making Peace With Your Body Q&A with Dr. Hanks In this bonus episode, I answer audience questions live about making peace with your body. I answer questions likeHow do you accept your body after weight gain?How can I expand my self definition beyond my appearance?How can I appreciate my ...
06.07.2022 How can I initiate difficult conversations with non-receptive parents? In this episode, I coach Lauren and address the question “How can I initiate difficult conversations with non-receptive parents?” Lauren wants to break the cycle of negative experiences she had as a child to protect her young daughter. During our ...
05.31.2022 How do we change judgment culture? With Suzy Holman In this episode, I coach Suzy Holman and answer the question “How do we change judgment culture?” Suzie recently decided to stop wearing her garments and worries that the clothing she wears will lead others to think that she is ...
05.24.2022 Why is it hard for us to make a mutual decision about where to move? In this episode, I coach Amanda and address the question, “Why is it hard for us to make a mutual decision about where to move?” Amanda and her husband have been practicing a partnership approach to their marriage, but sometimes ...
05.17.2022 How can I support my kids in our blended family? In this episode, I coach Jessica Frew of the Husband In Law Podcast and address the question, “How can I support my children in our blended family?” Jessica, her husband, and her ex husband have worked together to create an ...
05.10.2022 Bonus Episode: Healing Mother-Daughter Relationships with Madeline Hanks In this bonus episode of the podcast, I have a very special guest: my daughter Madeline Hanks. We have a vulnerable conversation about Madeline’s decision to leave the The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints as a teenager and ...

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